Website for moms who formula feed *m*

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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 10:07am
I came across this in my travels on the world wide web...

Not looking to debate or see what anyone's "oppinion" of it is. Just thought I'd share. Take a look, esp. if you formula feed/fed your baby!

-Beth

http://201reasons.webattitude.com/

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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 8:21pm
So happy you were able to work through your struggles and that you had such great support from your mom and the LC! I do admire those who can perservere. I just couldn't and in trying to push through I might have done something drastic and awful.

thanks for sharing a bit of your story. It gives me hope that next time (with the help of my medication) that I can perservere.

Judi


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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 7:59pm
I was a little flip myself with my response to you so no apology necessary! I am actually actively ttc and I am on an anti-depressant too. I absolutely have to be. The reason I had such trouble with bf was not because of the bf itself, I just didn't have the emotional stability to work through the bf issues I was encountering. I had stopped taking my meds to become pg and never knew I could take them safely. I have since found out that it's better for the pregnancy if the mother's depression is controlled. Pg women who are depressed are more likely to give birth prematurely and/or have low-birth weight babies (although that wasn't the case for me...41 weeks and a 9lb 6oz boy! LOL!). So hopefully I will be successful next time around knowing that I can safely be pg and nurse even while on my meds. I will try again that's for sure. But I also know that if it doesn't work out that there is a nutritionally complete and safe alternative there in formula.

I rarely get to see Oprah, but it's so true, everyone has a story and no one can know what it's like to be you!

Judi


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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 4:18pm
Your story almost made me cry because it brought back emotions I had with my first son. There was a point when my son was in the NICU that I resigned myself to ff even though I wanted to bf very badly. That was a very sad time for me (not just because of the bf but also because my ds was in the NICU). Luckily I had excellent help from a LC and I managed to establish breastfeeding. My passion arises mainly due to the fact that there were so many people (nurses, family, you name it) who tried to interfere (wittingly and unwittingly) with my attempt to bf. If I would have listened to the naysayers and were it not for my mother and that LC, I wouldn't have had the amazing experience I shared with my ds for almost 3 years. That being said, I understand there was no other choice for you. I appreciate you sharing your story & look forward to many further hearty exchanges!

Danielle

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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 4:00pm
Wow Judi, thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry I so flippantly mentioned that there are BF-safe depression meds. I really do feel for you. I think it's wonderful that you might try again with another child.

Did you see Oprah yesterday? Here it was about how everyone has a story. Isn't that so true?

- Ingrid


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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 3:40pm
You know Danielle, I may argue your points and such but I totally understand your *passion* for breastfeeding. I understand why bf advocates try and use any means possible to try and get someone to bf. It's the perfect and best food for babies hands down. I too was as passionate as you are before having my son. My degree is in Human Nutrition so I know breast is best and I was out to *enlighten the world* so to speak. That was until I had problems, until my clinical depression had me so bad that I wanted to throw my son against the wall after my 4th day of bf. I cried for weeks whenever anyone asked "how's the bf going" because I knew I was giving my son second best and I felt like a huge failure. Once you've btdt in regards to having to switch to something you were so adamantly against you will never be able to understand the *breastfeed at all cost attitude* again. I am going to try again and the reason for that is one person: the LC at the hospital. When we talked about me switching she was so very supportive. She sat and talked to me and hugged me and let me cry on her shoulder. She knew how hard I tried and how hard it was for me to switch and she was fabulous. She assured me that my son would be healthy and happy and strong. She was terrific and I never even got her name!

Anyway, probably so much more than you wanted to know, but I wanted you to know that I admire your conviction very much.

Hugs,

Judi


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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 3:22pm
As a bf mum, I actually can really appreciate this site. It helps me to understand how my zealous advocacy may hurt other women. I think a really important question (for myself) is how can one be a strong but sensitive advocate. Its the sensitive part that is my challenge.

Danielle

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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 12:50pm
That's a great site! Thanks for taking the time to post it here!

~Kim

"Becoming a parent means agreeing to allow your heart to go walking around outside of your body."

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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 11:03am
Thanks Beth, it is great!! Where ever did you find it??


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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 10:34am
Thank you Beth, it is a wonderful site...can't wait to read more when I get home from work.

Judi