What if you adopt a baby?

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What if you adopt a baby?
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 1:41pm
What are you going to do then? Since I'm a FF mom this wouldn't be a problem for me. But if you honestly believe that Formula harms your child, what would you do in that situation?

And yes...I'm one of those mom who buys the store brand, or whatever is on sale...lol.

Ilka



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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 6:51pm
Not planning on adopting but if I dod I would do my best to induce lactation/relactate. I would not however feel at all guilty about supplemeting with formula if it was neccessary. I think I would feel proud to be able to give an adoted baby any breastmilk (or even just comforting time at the breast) even if it wasn't a lot.

This is one of those situations where although I would try to breastfeed I would have no negative feelings about someone else deciding not to try. It's a huge effort and the payoff is not guaranteed. Also I felt differently about this issue before I nursed my own baby so if you'd asked me a couple of years ago my answer would ahve been quite different.

Isabel and Crispin (18 months and still a nursing fool)





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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 10:49pm
Hi, Lori, glad to see you here! Sherry.
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 10:25pm
I believe the latest protocol is a round of BCP's (to stimulate pgcy) then start pumping after stopping, and take domperidone (motilium) or reglan and/or herbs (fenugreek, blessed thistle, etc.) to help jump-start things. The moms pump often to begin with, like a young baby would be nursing (ever 2-3 hrs. tops, sometimes going 4-5 hrs. at night).

This of course NTBCAMA, but it is what I have heard is the latest recommended protocol for inducing lactation, no matter why.

Fio.

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 10:22pm
I will preface this by saying I have a sister (9 yrs younger) who is adopted, and was raised on Isomil. We adopted her at 10 mos of age, and I'm sure that a) the thought of bfing an adopted baby (despite having bfed me 7.5 mos) never crossed my mom's mind, and b) she would have figured that at 10 mos, she was 'too old' to learn to bf and it wouldn't be worth it.

I totally understand if someone thinks that bfing is "too much work" for an adopted child, as I'm sure it IS a lot of work.

That said...I know someone who adopted several kids and nursed them all. She had some or perhaps one...(?) who came to her at over a year of age and still nursed them. She said she thought it really helped integrate them into their home and hearts.

And lastly: if I adopted a child I would breastfeed him/her. I am not planning on adoption, but if I were, I would pump ahead of time, and I would try and get donated milk to make up the rest. I would still avoid formula at all costs...though I would use it if I ran out of donated milk, of course. Well, depending on the age. ;-) If I had adopted a 9 mos old and provided some milk to him, I'd probably just leave it at that, plus water plus solids, and not worry about formula at all. :-)

That's how I'd do it.

Fio.

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 5:52pm
This is an easy question for me to answer. If dh & I were to adopt a baby, I would relactate/induce lactation in order to nurse the baby. I wouldn't be against using formula if it became necessary to supplement a bit, but I would use an SNS, not a bottle. As a bf'er, it would feel very odd to me to give my child a bottle of formula (or even of ebm - I've never given either of my boys a bottle). It has been a long time since I've given *any* baby a bottle & I know it would/will feel weird to me if I ever do in the future.

Yes, I'm a militant bf'er. I would bf my adopted baby & I would feel very sad if, for some reason, I wasn't able to nurse a baby of mine - biological or not.

Michelle

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 4:27pm
I would absolutely try to nurse my adopted child. Having not been able to grow that child & nourish it w/in my body, for ME, i would find it all that MORE important, for ME, to feed the child how nature intended, w/ my body. I am a huge bf supporter, but i dont feel formula is "harmful" (usually). My dd actually needed to be supplemented w/ formula b/c i had a very poor milk supply until about 6 weeks old, & she had lost way too much weight. I worked very had w/ LC's, daily ... & took Reglan to increase my milk supply, but she NEEDED that formula to stay healthy, so i didnt hesitate once i realized she needed it. So- if i couldnt produce milk if i adopted, i would be dissapointed, but would then go to 2nd best, formula. R~
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 3:36pm
I don't know anything about it but here is a link on relactation/adopted nursing

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/start/relactation.html

Lori

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 3:12pm
I know of one poster on IV who was able to exclusively bf her adopted child. However, that is usually the exception. In most cases, the mother can partially bf while using an SNS.

I did use an SNS during the first week of bf'ing in order to increase supply. The thought of having to do it long term was pretty depressing, let me tell you. It has all the disadvantages of both bf and ff. However, if you have a strong belief in the value of bm and a strong commitment, you can do it.

I have met two women who were using an SNS for their babies while I was attending LLL meetings. I really admire what they did to give their babies as much bm as possible

If I was going to adopt, I would attempt to induce lactation. However, I am still nursing my 28 month old. If I adopted before she weans, I think it would increase my chances of success. However, an LLL leader told me my milk for my toddler is different than bm for an infant. I might still have to supplement.

Sherry

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 2:57pm
my friend adopted and was able to nurse. I'm not sure what she took to stimulate milk production...but she was able to nurse her adopted newborn.
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 2:46pm
What an interesting question and a coincidental one because I've been pondering this very thought. I would like more babies but I'm not sure that I want to go through another pregnancy because of past problems. I think it would be amazing to give a home to a baby who needs one.

I would try to relactate or maybe adopt before my current nursling is weaned (around 3 yrs). I've read that women who have breastfed before are the best candidates for inducing lactation and producing a full supply of milk. I also think the concept of "foster nursing" is very interesting, though I'm not sure I have the emotional capacity to bond with a baby and then give it up.

Danielle

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