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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 8:52am

I stumbled on this quote and wondered what you think:

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 10:19am

That only works if you are comparing the same mother and the same baby using two different methods - but the chances that bottle feeding would turn a bad or inattentive BFing mother into a good or attentive bottle feeding mother is very small. I won't say it's impossible, but it is unlikely.

However, having known a mother who BF badly - I do believe that it can cause harm. However in this case it was much more than simply watching soap operas while BFing - I don't think that would cause harm in and of itself.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 1:50pm

Why would a mother need to focus on her baby every second of every feeding in order for breastfeeding to be worth doing? I think it's ridiculous. All babies should ideally be fed "lovingly", but what does that even mean? I think it's pretty darn "loving" to sit with my baby in my warm arms suckling freely and on demand for hours on end, even if I'm sometimes also watching TV or reading, or chatting with someone else in the room. This was especially true after I had more than one child to take care of by myself all day long, and needed to interact with my active toddler while my baby nursed on demand.

Interesting choice with the mention of "a soap opera", too. I think that just adds more fuel to the whole "barefoot and pregnant" image so many people have of BF'ers. You know, they stay home all day with their babies and just watch TV, especially trashy junk like soap operas. Just more of the same after that article about BF'ers not being as good at their jobs, IMO, like those who think that SAHM's "don't work". I've never watched a soap opera in my life, but I've been a SAHM and have been breastfeeding constantly for the whole time, for nearly 20% of my life.

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Registered: 06-17-2007
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 6:28pm

I wonder if it would be better if I were bf carelessly and watching the History Channel. No, too much spin there. But surely there is nothing wrong with bf carelessly while you are watching the Lord of the Rings Extended Edition on Blu-Ray, which I will be doing a lot of in July after it comes out June 28. ;-P

Frankly, F is asleep about 80-90% of the time anyway. If he's awake I'll usually talk to him and look at him. I don't tend to do it at night, though, because obviously I don't want him to associate night-time with awake time.

I agree with pp that a mother who bf carelessly isn't likely to be a mother who bottle-feeds with love. I don't know a single mother who doesn't occasionally bf while watching tv, eating a meal, having a conversation, even shopping. But then I don't know a single person who doesn't occasionally bottle-feed while doing the same things. The difference is that the baby can control the flow of milk at the breast, but someone who is distracted during bottle-feeding may not notice that the baby is long since finished and trying to fight the flow of milk. I'd take distracted bf anyday over distracted bottle-feeding.




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Registered: 06-10-2008
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 7:40pm
Just as an aside because this jumped out at me, F is asleep 80-90% of the time??? Really??? I've never had sleepy babies (or children for that matter) so that's just astounding to me. Even as babies, I had to fight to get them down for each and every catnap.
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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 8:16pm

I'd say that sounds about right. He's outright asleep probably 18 hours a day, and that's 75% of the time. Then he has times where he dozes off for awhile on one or the other of us. I'd say 3-4 hours of awake time each day sounds about right. Granted, I can't quite tell if he's awake or asleep when he's nursing with his eyes closed. I would guess lightly asleep, but I suppose I could be wrong. And I should definitely note that he just turned one month today. By two months, E had definite awake times and a nap routine.

I suppose it could be worse. I couldn't guarantee E was awake even if her eyes were open. Freaked me out to no end to come get her out of the bouncy seat and see her, completely asleep, with her eyes half-open. I was REALLY glad when she quit doing that.




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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 1:01am

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 6:50am

I find this an interesting topic, because I can remember that once my daughter was probably more than six months and being breastfed, if she wanted attention from me, and I was focussed on soemthing else, eg talking on the phone sometimes,