In reality, my pregnancies and births are the MOST disappointing things that have ever happened to me. I have beautiful children as a result, and I love them desperately, but I really do believe women should not have to feel so empty and crushed by such an important aspect of motherhood. All the BF joy in the world doesn't make up for it, I'll be totally honest.
Anyway, there's my skeleton for the day, loosed from his shackled existence in the closet. ;O)
Big Hugs, Jennifer!!! I agree with you, no woman should feel so empty and crushed during their pregnancy and birth. It is so heartbreaking that it happens so often in our culture.
"Oh there it is from the bf'ing side! Babies don't get to choose! What they want does not factor in because you can't ask them, nor would most parents consider letting the child of this age make decisions such as this."
Sorry. I am not saying they are equal risks, I am saying that just because you can't know about the *what if* baby isn't a reason to not care, KWIM? My best friend's mom drank throughout all three of her pregnancies and has
>>>>Shouldn't what's healthiest for them factor in? Why are you at loath to consider the child?
I think that is all that is meant by the 'what would the baby want' comments....<<<<<
I expect most mom's consider all factors they deem relevant at the time, and I would not consider a ff'ing mom "loath to consider the child" just because she chose FF.
>>>>I am saying that just because you can't know about the *what if* baby isn't a reason to not care, KWIM? <<<<
Fine, but if a mom knows the risks and doesn't care, it might be that she views them as not huge or not huge in her case, given that genetics and environment play a role too.
If I play the "what if" game with my immune disorder I'd say "what if" I had been bf'd longer than 6 weeks then maybe I wouldn't have had this sucky disabling disease and then I think, well my mom was bf'd and she has the same sucky disease and hers is even worse because better meds were available when I got it, so in reality I'm lucky and then I think "what if" I hadn't married my ex-husband and had that really stressful period that resulted in me bringing on the immune disorder but then I wouldn't have my ODD, so in reality I'm lucky. And then I think this "what if" game is boring me I'm going to go and see if anyone has posted anything new on iVillage.
"I expect most mom's consider all factors they deem relevant at the time, and I would not consider a ff'ing mom "loath to consider the child" just because she chose FF."
If she's not considering what the baby would want (that is, a normal level of risk, standard nutrition, etc) then how exactly is she considering the child?
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Anyway, there's my skeleton for the day, loosed from his shackled existence in the closet. ;O)
Big Hugs, Jennifer!!! I agree with you, no woman should feel so empty and crushed during their pregnancy and birth. It is so heartbreaking that it happens so often in our culture.
~*bEcQUi*~
2 KiDs, a HuBbY, & a NeUroTiC doG
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>>>>So? i will never know what would've happened had i drank throughout my pregnancy, but enough evidence suggests it might be bad. <<<<
Really bad, way more bad than formula. I wouldn't compare those two at all.
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"Oh there it is from the bf'ing side! Babies don't get to choose! What they want does not factor in because you can't ask them, nor would most parents consider letting the child of this age make decisions such as this."
Shouldn't what's healthiest for them factor in?
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Sorry. I am not saying they are equal risks, I am saying that just because you can't know about the *what if* baby isn't a reason to not care, KWIM? My best friend's mom drank throughout all three of her pregnancies and has
~*bEcQUi*~
2 KiDs, a HuBbY, & a NeUroTiC doG
www.apileofe
>>>>Shouldn't what's healthiest for them factor in? Why are you at loath to consider the child?
I think that is all that is meant by the 'what would the baby want' comments....<<<<<
I expect most mom's consider all factors they deem relevant at the time, and I would not consider a ff'ing mom "loath to consider the child" just because she chose FF.
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
I've already had my fight for the day (OB's office was annoying me lol) so I'm basically just reading, RAV'ing and laughing
Are you responsible for all the missing posts?
>>>>I am saying that just because you can't know about the *what if* baby isn't a reason to not care, KWIM? <<<<
Fine, but if a mom knows the risks and doesn't care, it might be that she views them as not huge or not huge in her case, given that genetics and environment play a role too.
If I play the "what if" game with my immune disorder I'd say "what if" I had been bf'd longer than 6 weeks then maybe I wouldn't have had this sucky disabling disease and then I think, well my mom was bf'd and she has the same sucky disease and hers is even worse because better meds were available when I got it, so in reality I'm lucky and then I think "what if" I hadn't married my ex-husband and had that really stressful period that resulted in me bringing on the immune disorder but then I wouldn't have my ODD, so in reality I'm lucky. And then I think this "what if" game is boring me I'm going to go and see if anyone has posted anything new on iVillage.
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
Are you responsible for all the missing posts?
"I expect most mom's consider all factors they deem relevant at the time, and I would not consider a ff'ing mom "loath to consider the child" just because she chose FF."
If she's not considering what the baby would want (that is, a normal level of risk, standard nutrition, etc) then how exactly is she considering the child?
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