"Stating that, had you been consulted, you would have wanted things done differently is NOT a 'knock' on your parents. It's not disloyal. It's not ungrateful. You can disagree w/ a parenting decision made on your behalf w/out having any animosity towards your parents as a result."
I absolutely agree with this!!
I know there are several things *I* would change, given a way-back machine, but I accept that my parents did the best they could with what they had! It was their *information*, their "culture", the way *they* were raised that was faulty, not *them*.
>>>This is debate, after all; if we all agreed about everything it would get awfully boring awfully quick ;)<<<<
It is not your disagreement that bothers me, it's your exasperation and comments like "I see we have a reading comprehension issue to overcome" (post 494) that are a huge disincentive for me to keep explaining my position wrt to my personal feelings about my childhood to you.
>>>Stating that, had you been consulted, you would have wanted things done differently is NOT a 'knock' on your parents.
Thank you, I've been waiting for an appropriate message to bring this up (I know there were some but I had already passed them and didn't want to go back and find them again, I can barely keep up as it is!).
>>>>But I also think that without the ready-formula, women of the past were more likely to work through those very real (but avoidable in Utopia) problems.<<<<
Then why before ready-made formula were they creating all those different feeding aparatuses to supplement or replace breastfeeding?
I'm sure I got lucky with my labor nurse, but still, our rule was run everything by DH (had I had a different labor coach I would have had the same rule) first.
"It is not your disagreement that bothers me, it's your exasperation and comments like "I see we have a reading comprehension issue to overcome" (post 494) that are a huge disincentive for me to keep explaining my position wrt to my personal feelings about my childhood to you."
Sorry, but when you claim that I have stated things that I never said, it is frustrating.
Of course we can't go back in time and be absolutely certain, but I was an Anthropology major in both undergrad (cultural and archaeology) and grad school (paleoanthropology, aka human evolution).
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"Stating that, had you been consulted, you would have wanted things done differently is NOT a 'knock' on your parents. It's not disloyal. It's not ungrateful. You can disagree w/ a parenting decision made on your behalf w/out having any animosity towards your parents as a result."
I absolutely agree with this!!
I know there are several things *I* would change, given a way-back machine, but I accept that my parents did the best they could with what they had! It was their *information*, their "culture", the way *they* were raised that was faulty, not *them*.
>>>This is debate, after all; if we all agreed about everything it would get awfully boring awfully quick ;)<<<<
It is not your disagreement that bothers me, it's your exasperation and comments like "I see we have a reading comprehension issue to overcome" (post 494) that are a huge disincentive for me to keep explaining my position wrt to my personal feelings about my childhood to you.
>>>Stating that, had you been consulted, you would have wanted things done differently is NOT a 'knock' on your parents.
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
Thank you, I've been waiting for an appropriate message to bring this up (I know there were some but I had already passed them and didn't want to go back and find them again, I can barely keep up as it is!).
>>>>But I also think that without the ready-formula, women of the past were more likely to work through those very real (but avoidable in Utopia) problems.<<<<
Then why before ready-made formula were they creating all those different feeding aparatuses to supplement or replace breastfeeding?
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
I'm sure I got lucky with my labor nurse, but still, our rule was run everything by DH (had I had a different labor coach I would have had the same rule) first.
>>>>My bachelor's is in anthropology so my mind goes to this too -- wanting has nothing to do with it.
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
Malcolm Gladwell Blink
"It is not your disagreement that bothers me, it's your exasperation and comments like "I see we have a reading comprehension issue to overcome" (post 494) that are a huge disincentive for me to keep explaining my position wrt to my personal feelings about my childhood to you."
Sorry, but when you claim that I have stated things that I never said, it is frustrating.
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Of course we can't go back in time and be absolutely certain, but I was an Anthropology major in both undergrad (cultural and archaeology) and grad school (paleoanthropology, aka human evolution).
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