Baby refuses to breastfeed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2011
Baby refuses to breastfeed.
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Thu, 10-06-2011 - 8:12am
Hi.

My Baby is 10 months old and is eating solids well but I have been supplementing with breastfeeding. For the last week or 2 she has refused to feed from me. I'm worried that she isn't getting the nutrition she needs but she seems like her usual self and doesn't seem like she is even remotely interested in feeding and im not sure if i will be producing enough milk for her now! I'm thinking about trying her with formula now. It's really sad because I loved breastfeeding her and if I give her formula I feel like I'd be letting her down. I really have tried everything to try and encourage her. Any more advice and suggestions are welcome and would be appreciated.
Thank you

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2008
Thu, 10-06-2011 - 8:51pm
Would it be ok if we asked you a few questions to better understand your situation?

- What do you mean by "supplementing with breastfeeding"?

- How often are you currently breastfeeding? If she nursing at all or refusing 100% of the time?

- When she refuses to nurse, are you pumping to replace those feedings? Are you giving bottles of breast milk of formula? If so, how often and how much per bottle?

- How much solids is baby getting per day?

- When you say you've tried everything, can you give some examples? Have you spoken with a lactation consultant or La Leche League Leader about your concerns?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2011
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 2:01am
By supplementing I meant she used to have a feed from me then some of our food, now she isn't bothered about and milk from me or mine that has been expressed.

When I do pump I get hardly anything, maybe an ounce, 2 at the most.

She has about 4 meals per day and fruit & other little snacks in-between.

However I have not spoken to my lactation consultant, To be honest I had forgotten about that! Thank you for the reminder, I'll give them a ring :o)
Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 9:54am

welcome

Welcome to the debate board. It's wonderful to see you posting here and I hope that you will stick around and post more often.

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It is possible she is simply getting too much food, so is not hungry enough for BFing? It sounds like she is eating quite a bit for 10 months old. At that point, neither of my two Bfing sons were eating anything - their choice! LOL

Two ounces sounds just about right - I think that is the average that most women can express. I was never able to express more than a few drops!

If you really want her to come back to the breast, you could try cutting back on the amount of meals and solids. At this point your breast milk has more nutrition than the solids you have been replacing them with. And she does not need any other liquids than your milk.

I also wonder if it is a nursing strike? My son went on a nursing strike at 9.5 months old (and was still not on solids) and it took a week, of trying to nurse him when he was almost asleep, in the bath tub and sleeping with him without a top on - getting lots of skin to skin contact. In the mean time we did have to start on a small amount of solids, since he BF so little that week.

Let us know what you decide and want works for you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2011
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 10:03am
I think I'll try cutting her solids down a bit. I forgot to mention she is not a fat baby, she is quite tall though! I do sleep with no top on when she is in bed with me and se also goes in the bath with me. I will try her with less solids and more milk, see if that works. I'll keep you posted. Thank you :o)
Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 10-07-2011 - 11:28am

We will look forward to an update!

When I lost my milk due to illness and meds, I was able to bring in back in full, by stopping all solids, going to bed with the baby for a couple of days with plenty of liquids for me. I know everyone hasn't the time to give up a couple of days - but it did work for me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2008
Sat, 10-08-2011 - 4:08pm
I'm sorry if I"m a little dense today but I'm still not quite understanding. How often is she nursing directly in the course of a day? How often is she getting bottles? Are they breast milk or formula and how much?

4 meals per day does sound like quite a bit for a 10 month old. Just keep in miind that breastmilk or formula does need to be the primary source of nutrition until the 12 month mark and solids are really just for tastes.

What kind of pump are you using? The average mom can pump 1-3 ounces per session (both breasts combined) so you're doing a-ok with that. How often are you pumping?

Can you be more specific about the "everything" you've tried already to get her back to the breast?
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2011
Tue, 10-11-2011 - 3:46am
She's wasn't having any milk from me and only a little from a bottle (about half an ounce).
Because she wasn't sleeping through the night the health visitor suggested I give her an extra meal about an hour or 2 before she goes bed. She doesn't eat huge amounts of food either and 4 small meals seems to work for her.
I'm pumping every 3-4 hours.
I've tried skipping one of her solid meals, to see if she would be hungry enough to start breast feeding again, we sit in quiet rooms or lie down in bed with no distractions, I sleep with no top on and have her with me but she is just not interested, all she does is nip, twist and pull my breasts with her hands and thinks it's hilarious!
However she woke up at half past 5 this morning and had a short feed from me, she was only on there for about 3-4 minutes then she came off, I tried to get her back on but she fought me then went to sleep but at least she fed from me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2008
Tue, 10-11-2011 - 12:42pm
It's a little concerning to me that she's really getting no fluids whatsoever. When you're trying to give the bottle, is it breast milk or formula in there? Have you tried thinning down some of her solids meals with breastmilk just to get extra breastmilk into her?

That's great that you're pumping every 3 hours. What kind of pump are you using?

I'm glad that you were able to get in a quick nursing session this morning. When recovering from nursing strikes, it often is two steps forward and one step back. Many moms have good luck offering when baby is asleep or just starting to wake up. Have you tried that yet?
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Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Tue, 10-11-2011 - 12:52pm

You've made progress!! Yay!! Every minute at the breast counts - it will take time to get her back to the breast.

You have to decide what's best for you and your little one - the following are just some ideas...

If it was me, I would not be concerned about her sleeping thru the night right now. It might be your best time to get her back to the breast, when she is tired and hungry, it is dark, and there are few distractions.

If it was me, I would cut back to just two small meals a day, and when she has any solids or fluids I would hold her on my lap, and feed her myself, hold the cup myself, only giving her small sips or bits of food at a time. I would not be giving any bottles, no pacifiers. This helps to reinforce that food and suckling comes from mom, and strengthens the connection/bond.

If you have a sling, wrap or baby carrier, I would carry her most of the day - having her in-arms as much as possible - and skin to skin if you can manage it.

Of course, if nothing works - and she really is ready to give up BFing - you have done a wonderful job nursing her for as long as you did!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2011
Tue, 10-11-2011 - 3:26pm
Thank you. It's not that she doesn't get any fluids because she is drinking water.
I am going to persevere with her but the health visitor said she is a very healthy and happy baby and is not worried about her.

I will keep you posted on any more progress.

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