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Registered: 12-20-2011
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Wed, 12-21-2011 - 7:23pm
Hiya, My friends all call me mouse, I'm 45 with two boys. We're hoping to adopt twin babies...but I've been down that road before and will believe it when I see it...totally not bitter. :-). Dh insists on being optimistic... If we did get the babies...I would love to breast feed them...but seriously doubt that would happen. Still it's nice to dream :-) Anyway just thought I'd say hello here. Hugs, mouse

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Sat, 01-07-2012 - 3:07pm

It's been over a week since we last "talked" so I thought I would check in and see how you and the babies are doing? Is everyone settling in? Doing well? How are you holding up?

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Registered: 12-20-2011
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 3:13pm
They are doing really well, and I'm noticing changes in my breasts too! I'm just over the moon!

Thank you for the links..there's a few I haven't seen so looking forward to it.
Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 10:06am

Thinking about you and wondering how it's all going? You must be overwhelmed and not have much time to be posting updates - but when you do have the time, I'd love to hear more about those beautiful babies!

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 4:34pm

Wow, what great news. All the best. You will be very busy.

Teresa

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 10:24am

Congratulations!!!! Oh, how exciting!

And yes, so much to do at such a busy time of the year!

Sounds like the breastfeeding is going well, and they are accepting it - what a wonderful start! Those early weeks it does feel like you are nursing round the clock - and you have double that. I hope you are able to get some rest and help with everything else, so you can just focus on those beautiful babies.

I am sure that you have probably read most of these - but I will include what I found, just in case:

http://breast-feeding.adoption.com/

http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/adoptive-breastfeeding.html

http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/adoptive-breastfeeding-2.html

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/adopt/index.html

http://www.fourfriends.com/abrw/

http://www.llli.org/nb/nbadoptive.html

http://www.breastfeeding-problems.com/adoptive-breastfeeding.html

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Registered: 12-20-2011
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 5:41pm
Yep they're here. Got the lact aid, and using it practically round the clock. They're super cute. Super bad timing tho, what with the holidays, packed stores and being out of everything! Lol. We did borrow some infant car seats. Got tons of cloth diapers too, so we're washing them.

Got a huge super long list of stuff to buy!!

Both the babies have a pretty good latch, so no problems. Been doing this it seems every hour so round the clock. Ha!
Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 10:13pm

I am so anxious to hear if you got the babies! I so hope that it works out for you!

I have heard that for some moms who did not have a good supply with their first or second babies, found that with each baby, their ability to BF and maintain a decent supply increased.

So perhaps it is possible that you could have more success this time, despite your previous experiences. Wouldn't it be something to be able to complete BF adopted twins, after your history!?

Yes, I imagine that using a SNS or Lact-Aid to provide expressed/donated breast milk or formula while you are feeding the babies at your breasts would help a great deal. I know my cousin used one of those back in the 70's when she relactated when her son was 6 months, after only BFing him for a couple of weeks after his birth. It wasn't easy, but it was something that was important to her.

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Registered: 12-20-2011
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 2:20pm
teresagem wrote:

Hi and welcome. Unlike most of the posters here, I am not from the US, but Austalia. I stumbled across this board a few years ago, and stayed.

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Registered: 12-20-2011
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 2:16pm
witch_power wrote:

Tomorrow!? How thrilling!! :D

I know most recommend that you start months ago, but I do recall stories of adoptive moms that had no notice, and started pumping the day they received their babies. And even if you can't get enough milk in for a full supply, I have know moms who just use the breast to suckle, and don't worry about the supply.

I guess it depends on how easily the babies are willing to go back and forth from breast to bottle? It definitely would be a lots of work, on top of newborn twins! Have you checked out the adoptive nursing mom sites already? There is so much information out there now - and support if you need it.

BTW, did you ever have any testing to see why your milk supply dropped off? I recall there are a few medical conditions that might cause that (Hormonal disorders such as thyroid or pituitary imbalances or retained placental fragments can cause problems), and if it was a simple matter of taking some thyroid meds - it might mean the difference of frustration and success.

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 6:13am

Hi and welcome. Unlike most of the posters here, I am not from the US, but Austalia. I stumbled across this board a few years ago, and stayed.

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