Grandson update

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Grandson update
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 5:11pm

I wrote quite a bit, a few months ago, when I was trying to keep my grandson's penis from being cut.

 

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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 3:38pm

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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 8:52pm

Welcome back, Noelani....

I hope your son takes your advice to heart and will allow his little boy's penis to grow without further intervention. He absolutely must be left alone for nature to take its course.

If he does develop meatal stenonis, poor child, an operation to release the restricted urethral opening may well be required. But it will be a direct result of his circumcision - and those who advocated severing his foreskin in the first place should be made to dwell upon it and take stock.

I wish you, your son and your grandson well for the future, in love for each other.

Christopher

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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 12:43am
Thanks, Federico and Christopher. Its been a hard thing to take, but we just do the best with the situation, now. It was harder for my son to protect that baby, since they are still in high school and not married. The baby lived with his mother at the other grandmother's house, at the time, too, so that certainly didn't help things. My only consolation is that at least he had some anesthesia for it. They told her it didn't hurt him at all and that he was only crying and struggling because the circumstraint was cold, which of course is about as true as the idea that the moon is made of cheese but I guess if people are trying to defend a ridiculous practice, they use ridiculous excuses. But, at least he didn't feel everything, like my second son did, a quarter century ago, when he was circumcised, against our wishes. I have always wanted to ask people if they thought a shot of Marcaine into a little girl's genitals would make it so that someone could strap her down and cut parts off without hurting her.

Anyway, I just found out that my 4 YO granddaughter's parents are expecting another baby, in June.. We don't know the sex yet but if it is a boy, I know we won't have to worry about circumcision, because they both think it is a horrible thing to do.

I never would have dreamed, when my kids were born in the 80s and early 90s, that circumcision would still be an option for anyone without a religious interest, by the time I had grandchildren. There is still a battle to be fought.

 

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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 10:53pm

Noelani, your remark about giving a little girl a shot of Marcaine into her genitals and cutting off bits without hurting her is most apt. Most people who talk of female circumcision do so in very general terms - but you didn't pull any punches, speaking bluntly and graphically. Good for you. I hope others who read your description will make the immediate mental link to the same being done to little boys, as you intended. I hate to think of the agony your second son went through.

You're absolutely right,

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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 12:43pm

((hugs)) Noelani,

I imagine it was hard for your son to navigate the situation and keep peace around his sons birth- perhaps he didn't want to fight more/pressure the mom/make things more stressful?

It can be overwhelming at any age, but especially in highschool.

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