Son's Circumcision...

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Registered: 03-26-2013
Son's Circumcision...
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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 11:15am

Hi,

I am new here, but I am wondering if anyone has gone through something similar to what I am experiencing.

About 6 months ago, it came to my husband's and my attention that our 12 year old son had difficulties retracting his foreskin completely. We took him to a urologist, and she recommended that he be circumcised. We didn't have him circumcised at birth as we could not afford it, and by the time we could, it seemed like it was more trouble than it was worth. We eventually agreed, and she performed his circumcision.

After a few weeks, aesthetically, we thought she did a great job -- his glans was completely free of any foreskin, and although he had an obvious scar, it was symmetric and well back behind the rim. However, even though the wound had healed nicely, he was complaining of his glans rubbing in his underwear. We took him back to the urologist and told her of his discomfort. She examined him, said he healed perfectly, and explained that sometimes it takes a while before the glans dries out and becomes properly calloused, to protect him from rubbing of the fabric.

He is still bothered by the rubbing in his underwear.

Has anyone's son been bothered by this before, or know of someone who has? If so, does it eventually go away, or was there anything done to alleviate it?

Thanks in advance for your time...

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Registered: 03-26-2013
Thu, 03-28-2013 - 11:16pm

Thanks for the reply!

I looked up the term you used to describe his circumcision -- loose. Apparently there are 4 words used to describe circumcisions -- low, high, loose and tight. It looked like with both low and loose, and high and loose, there was skin which is bunched up behind or partly covering the glans. That is not the case with my son -- the scar looks like it is halfway down the shaft, and the pink skin (I guess 'inner foreskin'?) goes from there until the head. It looks more similar to a 'high and tight' circumcision -- from the description I saw.

You mentioned you had an adult circumcision. What type did you end up with? Are you happy with it? So you don't feel any discomfort now with your glans rubbing, right?

And thank you for the suggestion of briefs -- I'll get him some ASAP.

Once again, thanks!

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Registered: 01-06-2002
Wed, 04-03-2013 - 1:38am

Hi Diana and welcome!

I'm sad your son was circumcised because at 12 years old his penis was/is still growing and his retraction problem would probably have resolved. But what's done is done and his foreskin wont grow back of course.

I'm glad the surgery was successful without any of the complications circumcision can cause. You indicate that it was total - no remnant of foreskin left behind as in a 'loose' circumcision. A word of warning: this may cause compromised erections as he grows into manhood (tight shaft skin to the point of discomfort) but it's unlikely.

I was circumcised as an adult in 2002 and, like your son, had to run the gauntlet of my permanently exposed glans in contact with clothing - even a bath robe after showering. You see, nature designs the glans as an internal organ protected by its foreskin. In this way it's kept soft, lubricated and extremely sensitive. Your urologist is right, it will take time for nature to kick in and protect your son's glans with a keratinised growth of toughened tissue. Incrementally, as the months pass by he will lose more and more sensation.

For now, I suggest you give him briefs for underwear, rather than boxer shorts. It will keep his penis and testicles snug and free from movement in his day to day activity. This will help him, believe me. At night, in bed, he is probably okay just in pyjamas? I do feel sorry for him. The feeling he experiences when his penis head brushes clothing is similar to the sensation we all know when we knock our humerus (funny bone) - it's not funny!

I hope this has been some help. I wish your son well.

Christopher

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-06-2002
Wed, 04-03-2013 - 1:41am

I'm no expert on 'styles' of circumcision, but a 'loose' one on a boy is designed to allow his penis to 'grow into' any remaining foreskin, leaving him looking properly circumcised when he grows up without his erect penis causing him pain from too much foreskin removed, restricting his erection.

It does leave some skin bunched up behind the coronal rim when a penis is flaccid, but in my case it's minimal. 'Morning Wood' cures that to the point of discomfort sometimes - tightly stretched shaft skin drawing up scrotal skin.

Your son's scar, if really half way down his shaft, begs the question: is that when he is erect or soft? If when flaccid, all his foreskin and some shaft skin must have been cut away, which is not good. If when he's hard, then no foreskin of any use remains.

Yes, the pink area is inner foreskin - the only part of his penis that will remain sensitive for some many years ahead. His exposed glans will lose any erotic sensitivity in short thrift by comparison.

It seems my circumcision was similar to your son's, except the scar line is no more than two eighths of an inch from the coronal head rim. So nothing like the inner foreskin sensitivity your son may experience, if he's lucky.

No discomfort with my glans rubbing now, it lost all sensation a long time ago. Keep your son's genitals in tight clothing for a month or two in the daytime - briefs, yes. At night in bed he need wear nothing. Any exposure to warm air under his bed clothes will comfort him.

Christopher

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Registered: 01-06-2002
Thu, 04-18-2013 - 10:37pm

Hi Diana, it seems you unintentionally replied to yourself! That meant I didn't pick up your post until now when browsing through posts in general on our Crcumcision board. I remember doing the same in the past, believe it or not!

Good, I'm glad and I hope he feels better now with briefs for underwear. It won't be necessary when his sensitivity is lost.

From what you describe, your son's circumcision was 'high and tight' as you suspected. The pink skin is what is left of his inner foreskin, correct. It will remain the most sensual part of his penis into adulthood and beyond, but less and less so, as time passes. It's worth keeping that in mind because the only equally sensitive area left which will never lose its sensitivity is the sulcus: the small ring of tissue behind the coronal rim of his exposed head (glans).

I really have no idea what type of circumcision I ended up with. It was done as a necesstity a day or two after paraphimosis and emergency admission to hospital. My eldest daughter, a student nurse who was my welcome support at the time, said it looked "Good, neat - he did a good job Dad. I love you." That melted my heart, but I hated having it done.

No discomfort now. My glans is bereft of any sensation from rubbing against clothing. I feel nothing. And your son will be the same in time. It's a part of being circumcised that every male must accept.

How is your son? No more discomfort?

Christopher

"Education is the discovery of our own ignorance." Will Durant


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Registered: 05-22-2014
Thu, 05-22-2014 - 6:56am

Hi,i went through this and am still going through this even after 20 years.I think ladies dont understand that the glans of a boy or man who isn't circumcised is very sensative! Try think what it must be like to stick your tongue out and leave it like that forever! Because your son was circumcised as a boy he will always know the feeling of having a forskin and it will take him many years to become used to being circumcised.I chose to be circumcised as an adult for that exact reason of wanting to feel my glans rubbing against underware and to have that naked feeling.I will never get used to it because i had a forskin until i was 21 years old.Yes my glans have dried out a bit but all the nerves endings are still in my glans and maybe i had a forskin for so many years that my glans were so sensative even now after 20 years of being circumcised i can feel my glans rubbing in my underware.For an adult its an awesome feeling which is why i would never circumcise my son.If my son were circumcised as a baby he would never know how good it feels to have your forskin retracted never mind having it retracted forever!! A baby's glans would dry out rather quickly and his penis will never be as sensative as a boy or an adults would be that wasn't circumcised at birth.Circumcision is for adults.Adults decided about circumcision because they realised what effect it would have on their penis and they could understand what the consequinses would be to be circumcised as adults.It something very difficult to get used to and in my case i know i will never get used to being circumcised.Dont get me wrong..i want it like this because the feeling is fantastic! I'm glad your son only got circumcised as a boy.He will love it when he gets older.When i was about 14 years old i wanted to be circumcised and only got it done at 21 but thankfully my parents left me intact because i can now benifit from all these wonderful sensations.Like feeling more naked and direct friction on glans is almost painful but at the same time its fantastic!.I hope ladies can understand what it must be like for a guy to be circumcised.