New here...couple questions :)

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New here...couple questions :)
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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 10:01am

Hello everyone. My name is Melissa (25) I'm married to Daniel (33) and we have two beautiful boys. Our oldest, James (5) who we circumsized just because we thought you were supposed to (we feel bad about that now) Our youngest, Jonathan (almost 3) we read up on it and decided it just wasn't necessary!

 

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Registered: 01-06-2002
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 12:11am

Melissa, thank you for your post - and welcome!

Please see this link:

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Questions-Resources/No-Special-Care-at-All-for-Foreskin/td-p/118493235/jump-to/first-unread-message

You will know when his foreskin retracts on its own only if you see him play with his penis (as boys do!) or if you try very gently to retract the foreskin yourself. At three years old he may or may not be retractable... it can take some several years before this happens, even to the point of puberty occasionally. Keep in mind that a retractable foreskin is only of ultimate benefit when a male is sexually active with a partner - though nature does appear to allow the pleasure of masturbation with a freely loosened foreskin before puberty.

Your second question you have answered yourself, really. Your son has no infections. The occasional red tip of his foreskin is probably nothing more than blood drawn up with playful pulling/stretching. My son was the same! The only other possibility might be nappy rash (if he he isn't potty trained yet), but you would have mentioned it if that was the case.

Just wash his genitals as you do with any other part of him. His foreskin protects his penis - even when he becomes retractible. Do not ever wash under it or instruct him to do so himself. His penis will clean itself....nature in action, believe me. :smileyhappy:

Christopher

"Education is the discovery of our own ignorance." Will Durant


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Registered: 04-15-2005
Mon, 11-28-2011 - 10:57am
Thank you :) I sort of jumped the gun on my post! Looks like I could EASILY find all my answers in that post and just browsing >.<

 

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Registered: 01-06-2002
Mon, 11-28-2011 - 7:56pm

Well, yes... but having a direct link to that thread saved you a couple of minutes browsing, I hope. :smileywink:

Please pop back fom time to time and/or contribute to other circumcision or parenting boards in iVillage. There's a wealth of helpful infomation and interesting disussions on just about anything! Perhaps you do that already?

Christopher

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Registered: 04-15-2005
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 8:17am
Honestly the reason we changed our mind on Jonathan was because of the debate on my expecting club. At that time I was just, we did our first, we will our second. But after reading the comments, and getting some information from our Doula, we both decided it just wasn't necessary. I hope that my comments will help someone else in the future to actually look into it and research it, and perhaps change their mind as well!

I think the next browsing around I'll do, will have to do with having one boy circumcised and one not...so far they haven't even noticed, but I'm wondering if/when that question will come up.

 

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Tue, 11-29-2011 - 9:11pm

Melissa, I replied in full to your answer - but somehow lost it when I clicked on Post. :smileysad:

I will just say for now that your present family of

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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 1:05pm
You dint jump the gun you used the gun jest right. we need now Post on the this board and new people to. so it nice to here forum you. as for having one son cut and one uncut. my match younger broth never even notice tall about 11yo and i,m not shore if that was not do to the puberty book he had start to read. and it was never a big deal in any way. please let know how it going like sad we need post so this broad dos not die. thanks for post one more time
have grate day
jsave
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Thu, 12-01-2011 - 7:43pm

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Sat, 12-10-2011 - 5:09pm
My son, now 11, did not retract his until he was 6 I think. They will retract it when they are ready too, may be sooner, may be later. Just don't force it and don't mess with it.

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