Was it you or your dh who wanted to leave your son intact?

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Was it you or your dh who wanted to leave your son intact?
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Wed, 01-05-2011 - 3:28pm

I was wondering if it was a mutual decision or if one of you had to convince the other.

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Registered: 03-28-2003

It was a mutual decision. Our "babies" are 16 years old (twins), and the Internet wasn't a resource for us in those days. When we learned we were having boys (we had a bunch of ultrasounds!), one of us mentioned circumcision. I don't know who said what first, but for both of us, our instinct was to leave well enough alone - in spite of the fact that DH, his brother, and my brothers are all circumcised, and neither of us had ever seen an intact penis (as far as we knew).

The only outside information we got was from our family doctor. We told him that we were not interested in circumcising, but wanted to know if there was a good medical reason to do it. He mentioned lower risk of UTI and STD (remember, this was 1994), but didn't feel that they were sufficient to justify the operation. Lucky for us - I'm not sure what we would have done if our beloved doctor had pushed us to do it!

As DH and I talked about it, we came to the following conclusions together:

1. That's got to HURT! We didn't want to inflict any unnecessary pain on our babies.

2. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

3. Baby boys are born with a foreskin - it must be there for a reason.

4. Circumcision is more of a social thing than medical, and we didn't feel obligated to perpetuate the custom. I remember saying "It's got to stop some time - it might as well be with us!"

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Registered: 07-25-2007

I hadn't even thought about it either way and dh (circ) asked me what I thought. He said he had been looking into it and didn't think it was a good idea. I wasn't sure, like I said I hadn't thought about it at all yet, so I told him to send me some links and any info he had. Of course after reading that stuff I was sure I didn't want to do it. By that time dh had started to second guess himself but it was more out of fear of what our families would think or say and he got over that.

Luckily we never fought about it or anything. After educating ourselves about it there was no question. We're so happy we didn't do it and now we have two intact sons.


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Registered: 03-15-2005

The decision was eventually mutual.

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Registered: 01-15-2009

Well, I am the DH - and ever since the age of six when I discovered that I had been circumcised, I have been more than a little upset about it.

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Registered: 10-12-2004

I'm the dad I'm intact

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Registered: 08-06-2005

My kids' father was one of the few boys born in the 50s who wasn't circumcised.

 

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Registered: 12-18-2007

grate story thank,s for the post

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Registered: 03-15-2005

Thought I would add that of the people I know who have recently had sons, the most common reason given FOR circ'ing was that the father was circ'd.

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Registered: 01-15-2009

Thought I would add that of the people I know who have recently had sons, the most common reason given FOR circ'ing was that the father was circ'd.

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Registered: 01-06-2002

Kristi...

"I'm in a very pro-circ state."

'State' or 'state'? I doubt the latter! :smileywink:

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