18 or 21 for Adulthood???

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Registered: 12-06-2012
18 or 21 for Adulthood???
Wed, 02-06-2013 - 2:29pm

Am a mother and step mom with 6 children in all........

i would like to see if we can get a debate to congress to raise the age from 18 to 21 for children to be able to make decisions on their own.....

what do you think? i have views to support but i would like to get views from other parents and 18year olds as well.

Let the debate begin!!!!!



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Registered: 10-23-2001
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 9:55am
I find it fascinating that children can drop out of school at 16, At 18 s/he can vote, Drink at 21 and remain on your healthcare plan until 25 or 26... But we still call you an adult at 18, Something's wrong with that picture, Lol! FTR, I am the mother of three, My oldest is 15 and she's a high school freshman, she will be 18 the Summer before her senior year. I'm lucky she's a good and responsible kid but I have a hard time calling a high school kid or early college kid an adult at that age.



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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 8:21am

  When my DDs were 18 they were not living at home (for most of the year),  they were living in their college towns.

  As adults they should have been able to make decisions on their own without having to go though mommy and daddy.

  If I were the one still legally making decisions for them that would also mean that I would be the one legally responsible for them.  I do not think I would want to be legally responsible for someone not even living under my roof that I have absolutely no control over.

  I think that all parents have "goals" in their parenting.   Having grown up in an authoritarian hosuehold I did not develop many decision making skills in my youth which made it a bit harder in my early adulthood.  One of my goals was to help my DDs develop those skills so they would not have the struggles that I did.  Far from a perfect parent one thing that I am proud of is that DH and I did raise our DDs "to have a good head on their shoulders", the ability to think  out and make logical decisions.  We are finding out now just how important that is, as our DD1 at 29 will in the next few months will have to make decisions that no one, especially someone her age should have to.



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Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 7:20am
Congress has no authority over this issue, other than to set military policy. The Constitution guarantees the right of all citizens 18 and older to vote; Congress can't change that. The states set rules for legal adulthood to enter into contracts, purchase alcohol, etc.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 2:13am

 18 is the right age.  Most will have graduated from high school and either moving to college,or voc training.  They do not need to be on a apron string.  Let go.