the etiquette of picture taking

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Registered: 07-18-2006
the etiquette of picture taking
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Thu, 06-07-2012 - 12:07pm

Which is ruder - opting not to have your picture taken, or someone insisting on taking it after you say no?

Let me preface this by saying that I *loathe* having my picture taken. There aren't even that many pictures of me with my dh or kids, THAT is how much I hate it. I have had various issues over the years that have really messed with my self esteem - (weight gain, thinning hair, acne issues) and when I see a picture of myself that highlights this, I almost get physically ill. I'm not kidding. So, ok, it's a given I have some issues. Even when everyone else thinks I look "good", I utterly disagree!

Last nite I was at a get together. My best friend's brother committed suicide a year ago. (Not unlike my own brother - talk about having messed up things in common, huh!) Anyhow, they had a "celebration of life" party for him, which I thought was a really cool idea. Her sister was walking around, snapping pics. I had my son with me, and she stopped to snap our picture. I tried getting out of it, she insisted, and took it anyway.

This happens all the time, and it irritates the crap out of me. If I SAY, please don't take my picture, shouldn't that be respected? Or am I the rude one for not being a good sport? People have cameras on everything nowadays, and I'm sorry, but I just do NOT want my picture taken. Period. Why is that such a big issue for people?

Thoughts?

And while we're at it, what about people taking pictures, and posting them online against your wish? Or  your children? I have a real pet peeve about this, especially when it comes to my daughter. She is quite beautiful, and while *I* take her picture all the time, and do occasionally puts pics of the kids on his FB page, I always choose the opt out option for school and/or activity pictures to be posted online. I'm probably paranoid. But I'm a very private person, and really don't want my kids' pics posted all over the Web. Again, does this make me totally rude?

Angie

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Registered: 12-07-2011
Sun, 06-10-2012 - 4:06pm

Wow sounds like you should have a talk with  this person.

 

<<This happens all the time, and it irritates the crap out of me. If I SAY, please don't take my picture, shouldn't that be respected? Or am I the rude one for not being a good sport? People have cameras on everything nowadays, and I'm sorry, but I just do NOT want my picture taken. Period. Why is that such a big issue for people?>>>

 

No it's called being assertive and drect most people have a problem with that IME.