gender selection now a multi-million dollar industry

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gender selection now a multi-million dollar industry
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Mon, 09-17-2012 - 2:41pm

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/17/gender-selection-_n_1889991.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

What do you think about this? According to the article, it's girls most parents are desperate for, rather than boys.

In some circumstances I can see the logic in this. For example, I have a good friend whose son has Barth Syndrome. He had a heart transplant at 18 months old. While women/girls can be CARRIERS, only an actual male can have BS. My friend is a carrier, if they had another son, he would likely suffer from this condition as well. If they had a girl, it would be all good. Long story short, her son is an only child and will remain so. Since there is no way to "guarantee" a girl, and they don't want another child going through the hell their son has, they decided to stick with just one kid.

I also have a friend who I could have seen doing this, had she had the money. She has six boys - two stepsons she has raised, four biological she gave birth too. She desperately wanted a girl each and every time she was pregnant. She adores all her kids, is an AMAZING mom, but yeah - I could see her doing this at one time.

I was suprised no one mentioned autism as a risk factor, since girls are much less likely to be autistic. (Except in my case, my daughter has ASD and my son is the "normal" one.)

What are your thoughts? Would you have ever done something like this, or would you judge someone else who did it? (I have to admit, as pro-choice as I am, I think abortion for gender selection is reprehensible!)

Angie

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Well, Jam, I am not getting it. If anyone cares to explain it to me, I will try to respond if not, well, I guess we're at a dead end.
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<<<No, the point is it does not and should not matter why a person does anything if you support the choice you support the choice why they have an abortion is neither any of your business nor important.>>>

You're right - whatever reasons a woman might choose to terminate are no one's business. It doesn't mean people won't have an opinion about it. The difference between the pro-choice and pro-life camps are that the pro-life side believes their opinions should be legislated into law governing another woman's body. The pro-choice side does not.

Angie

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Jam, if there is some kind of analogy in the last comment, I am not getting it. Sorry.
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Let's take if pug of the abortion realm. I support the right of a pet owner to euthanize her dog. In the case of a pet owner who decides to put down her old, cancer-ridden, blind dog who is in constant pain, I am supportive if the choice. Another pet owner who decides to euthanize her dog because it chews her shoes and she can't be bothered to train it, or because she had a new boyfriend who doesn't like dogs? I might not even want to know that person. But I still support the right of people to euthanize their pets.
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I'm sorry you're sorry that I don't think the way you do.
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Ok, you make no sense. So what if I don't agree with her reasons? I still think it is her absolute right to choose. I'm not "attaching condition" to anything. If that were the case, I would be saying she shouldnt be allowed to terminate. I would never tell any woman that.

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<<<Another thought... ( If they had a girl, it would be all good.) But would they consider that it would not all be good? This girl child could be a carrier, and she will have to live with making the choice of gender selection for her own children, or taking the risk of having a son with a genetic disease?>>>

I honestly don't know if they thought that far in advance. You're absolutely right - although, maybe by that time in the future, medicine will have figured out something by then? In any case, they seem pretty at peace with their decision.

Angie

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.<<< I personally think there is a moral difference between killing a fetus because if has Tay-Sachs and killing one because it has a penis. I am also not in favor of legally preventing people from deciding to kill a fetus because it has a penis attached, but it doesn't mean I think that person made a morally-defensible choice. >>>>

Exactly! Being pro-choice means supporting their right to choose. Which we do.

Angie

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<<<In my experience people who are pro choice support all choice,Now you may not and certainly are not required to agree with every choice but to say abortion for gender selection is reprehensible?

Hmm it causes me to wonder why it is that you stray into certain choices and reasons for those choices being okay and some not. If you agree a woman has the right to do as she pleases with her body then it seems to me that whatever reason that may present itself is indeed a CHOICE and if you are pro choice you would support every woman's right to it. When we start defining what is and is not okay then we tend to weaken our argument for being pro choice and admit that in some way our support indeed our philosophy of choice is somehow flawed.

I'm pro choice and I just can't have that argument.

just seems a bit odd to me.>>>>

I support any woman's right to terminate a pregnancy. I am adamant that abortion should remain safe and legal. It doesn't mean I have to agree with her reasons, and I personally find this one rather appalling. It doesn't seem "odd" to me, at all. As long as I support her RIGHT TO CHOOSE TO DO IT, how does that make me any less pro-choice?

Angie 

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