gender selection now a multi-million dollar industry

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gender selection now a multi-million dollar industry
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Mon, 09-17-2012 - 2:41pm

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/17/gender-selection-_n_1889991.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

What do you think about this? According to the article, it's girls most parents are desperate for, rather than boys.

In some circumstances I can see the logic in this. For example, I have a good friend whose son has Barth Syndrome. He had a heart transplant at 18 months old. While women/girls can be CARRIERS, only an actual male can have BS. My friend is a carrier, if they had another son, he would likely suffer from this condition as well. If they had a girl, it would be all good. Long story short, her son is an only child and will remain so. Since there is no way to "guarantee" a girl, and they don't want another child going through the hell their son has, they decided to stick with just one kid.

I also have a friend who I could have seen doing this, had she had the money. She has six boys - two stepsons she has raised, four biological she gave birth too. She desperately wanted a girl each and every time she was pregnant. She adores all her kids, is an AMAZING mom, but yeah - I could see her doing this at one time.

I was suprised no one mentioned autism as a risk factor, since girls are much less likely to be autistic. (Except in my case, my daughter has ASD and my son is the "normal" one.)

What are your thoughts? Would you have ever done something like this, or would you judge someone else who did it? (I have to admit, as pro-choice as I am, I think abortion for gender selection is reprehensible!)

Angie

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Registered: 01-08-2009
There are many reasons for not wanting to bring a child into the world. You can't feed it. You have too many other kids. You have a disease that pregnancy could make worse. The child has a terminal condition and would be condemned to a short, suffering existence. In each case the woman weighs out the risks/benefits/issues before making the decision to kill the fetus. I personally think there is a moral difference between killing a fetus because if has Tay-Sachs and killing one because it has a penis. I am also not in favor of legally preventing people from deciding to kill a fetus because it has a penis attached, but it doesn't mean I think that person made a morally-defensible choice.
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Registered: 10-01-2010

I can understand wanting to use such a method if you have a severe genetic disease that is only passed on to one sex - but every time we tamper with embryos (After fertilization and three days of incubation, an embryologist uses a laser to cut a hole through an embryo’s protective membrane and then picks out one of the eight cells) we don't really know the long-term results.

For myself, I could not do it.

Another thought... ( If they had a girl, it would be all good.) But would they consider that it would not all be good? This girl child could be a carrier, and she will have to live with making the choice of gender selection for her own children, or taking the risk of having a son with a genetic disease?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
I do not see any problem with being pro-choice but thinking its pretty reprehensible to kill a fetus for being the wrong gender. What's next? I wanted a blue-eyed blonde and this baby is going to be red-headed, so we're flushing this one and starting over?" Nobody is saying "I am pro-choice but would deny you the right to kill the fetus if it's the wrong gender.".
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Baby girls are not that hard to come by. They throw them into the streets or leave them in fields in many areas of the world. Chinese orphanages are full of them.
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Registered: 08-22-2009

  No I would not have done it.  Although some think the reason I have three children is because I was trying for a boy.  It is absolutely not true.

 

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