Kids & Parents Battling Over Hairstyles
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|Thu, 09-05-2013 - 12:23pm|
Hair cutting has often been a battle of wills between a parent and child. A mother might want to cut her daughter’s long hair to avoid the daily battle of brushing through tangles. Or a son might want to chop his perfectly tailored ‘do into a mohawk.
Sioux understands the controversy, but also feels that a mother’s unwillingness to let her child manage her own hair might be a more deeply-seated issue.
“I think it’s a control issue. Does my child belong to me or to herself?”
Dr. Jane Nelsen, author of the “Positive Discipline” series, says that frequently a parent’s ego gets in the way of a helping a child develop their own identity.
“Children are always trying to figure out who they are separate from their parents, it’s a process called individuation,” says Nelsen. “Kids need to experiment, and instead of trying to get your child to look a certain way for yourself or for your neighbor, it’s your job as a parent to help your child figure out who they are through teaching and problem solving skills.”
Hairy situations: When kids and parents battle over 'dos- http://www.today.com/moms/when-childs-hair-choices-become-hairy-situation-parents-8C11065796
Interesting topic. Where do you stand on the issue? Do you let your child(ren) pick out their hairstyles? What about coloring their hair? When do you step in and help them make the decision, and when do you let them have the full say?