Marriage or Baby: Which Comes First?

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Marriage or Baby: Which Comes First?
Thu, 02-28-2013 - 12:46pm

Giuliana Rancic and her husband Bill worked really hard to have a baby. After she underwent a double lumpectomy and double mastectomy and failed to conceive on her own, the couple decided to bring in a surrogate and have their child through a gestational carrier. The plan worked, and the Rancics welcomed baby Edward Duke into the world in late August.

The obstacles that Rancic, 37, and her husband had to overcome would be hard on any marriage, but the E! News host says they made it through the trying time because they're "best friends." They'd have to be, because it requires a strong love to go through everything they did.

Still, Rancic is drawing some heat for telling Us Weekly that she and Bill put their marriage before their child. As she explains, "We're husband and wife, but we're also best friends, and it's funny because a lot of people, when they have kids, they put the baby first, and the marriage second. That works for some people. For us, I find, we put our marriage first and our child second, because the best thing we can do for him is have a strong marriage."

What do you think of her comment?  Do you agree?

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Tue, 03-05-2013 - 5:05pm

I have only been in two serious relationships since my divorce and I am kind of lucky that my DD likes both of them.

I was in a relationship for 4 years before meeting my current husband and I broke up with him in large part because I didn't like how he treated my daughter. He started getting annoyed with her, for stuff like forgetting to turn the light off when leaving a room, and snap at her sometimes. She really liked him, so of course she would be crushed. I wasn't having that. It was obvious to me he wasn't cut out to be a step parent so I ended it. I am still friends with him and my DD and I still spend time with him, but just as a family friend.

My DD and my DH get along really well. There are no conflicts between them, and if there were ever any I can trust him to be an adult enough to handle it in a constructive manner. Were that to ever change, it would be over, but in two and a half years of us living together there has never been an issue. DH knows she comes first, and totally gets it.

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