New Standard for Tipping?

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New Standard for Tipping?
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 8:46am

It’s a question we all face – what’s a reasonable tip for your waiter? After all, the last thing you want is to get on the bad side of the person who handles your food.

According to the New York Post, tips may be adding a bigger chunk to your bill.  Waiters in Manhattan now want a 25 percent tip, and some New York City restaurants that print “suggested gratuities” even present 30 percent as an option, the paper reports.

It’s not just wishful thinking – waiters are starting to get it. A study by Cornell University consumer behavior professor Michael Lynn, who examined 9,000 credit card receipts from a Poughkeepsie, N.Y. restaurant, found that more than a third of diners left tips greater than 20 percent.

Is 25% the new standard for tipping? Depends where you eat-


Wow!  25% seems a bit high!  How much do you generally tip your waiter/waitress?

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Registered: 08-27-2001
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 4:37pm
I tip 15% on hair service too. For a buffet I usually drop thd tip down a bit - 10% or so. I don't tend to use tip jars hnless I'm ordering something complex or a big order. My dd works at an ice cream shop that had a tip jar, but unlike waitresses, she makes minimum wage.
I also understood yhat you don't tip the owner of a business, but I offer it, and they never seem to turn it down.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 1:43pm

  I tip for hair cuts.  I have heard the rule about not tipping if it is the owner but I do anyway.   The cut is $15 and I tip $5.

  At a buffet I tip less,  it really depends on how much actual service I get.

  Although it is rare that we ride in taxis when we do we tip the drivers.  When we do a shuttle at the airport we tip the driver. 

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 10:34am
We tip about 18 - 20%. Our tax is 6% here and I tend to multiply tax by 3 to get my tip. If it is a small bill (ie just me for lunch) I might do $2-3 dollars which might be more like 40%

Hijack - who else do you tip? I'm thinking hair dressers, etc. I get a cut and color about every 6 weeks and she was charging me $50.00. I'd add $5.00. Now she is charging me $55.00 and I still give an extra $5.00. But when you are tipping a waiter, you are paying the restaurant for the food and the tip is for the service. In a hair salon, you are paying for the service and maybe a small amount for the product. But you are paying the "owner" if it is a chair-rental type shop, for all of it anyway. So why do we tip them?

What about at a buffet type restaurant where all they do is bring you a drink and clear your plates? Do you tip more or less there?

Do you tip anyone else? Why? and how much?
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 9:21am
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:48am

  I read somewhere that the servers go home with cash tips that evening but anythng put on a card is done either weekly or sometimes even  monthly so I always try to make sure that I always have cash on hand my for the tip.

  DD1 worked in a coffee shop her last three years of college and a couple of years after college.  They had a tip jar to share.  It was divided based on the % of hours worked.   They got their paychecks every other Friday, the Friday in between they got their tip money.  She liked that, getting paid every week. 

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Registered: 04-16-2009
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 1:51am
Here, no waitress makes less than minimum wage which is about $10.25 an hour. $2.00/hr is ridiculous!
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:03pm

I would rather see the waitstaff's salaries raised and forget all about tipping.  I hate it.  I am a 20% tipper.  If there was an additional 20% attached to every bill and they used it to properly pay the waitstaff, I'd be very happy.  

I hate it even more in places where you have to put the money in the person's hand.  I know it's my own hang up, but I was raised where money was very personal and everyone deserves to have their privacy respected.  I have been told by people who work in the service industry that they don't feel that way, but I am uncomfortable having money given to me and therefore, I feel, somehow, like there is a servant/master situation being set up when I give the tip.  

Does anyone else feel this way?  I tend to overtip to compensate for my discomfort.


ETA:  I looked up tipping by culture on Wikitravel.  I wonder if I inherited my weird attitude from my Irish family.  According to Wikitravel:
Historically, offering a tip may have been seen as an insult; it is implying the receiver may be bought or bribed, and that the person doing the tipping is "better than you". This is the origin of the custom of offering to buy the barman/barmaid a drink in a pub. You would not tip a friend or work colleague, that would be an insult, but it is normal to buy them a drink. These attitudes have now largely given way.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 5:06pm

  We tend to tip very well. 

  In our early "poor"  marriage years we did not have the finances to tip well, eating out was a rarity for the most part when we were traveling  (often moving from one base to another) so we were a bit tight with our tips.

  Now sometimes I think we go a bit to the other extreme.   Three reasons, we can afford it,  a bit of payback for the past and having kids who have depended on tips for part of their salary.


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Registered: 07-18-2006
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 4:47pm

It depends on the service, the amount of the bill, and how much of a mess my kids make. :smileywink: I generally try to leave at least two to three dollars, and we don't dine anywhere that expensive. Now, at at a nice resteraunt, I'd probably tip higher, but 25% still seems pretty steep to me!


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Registered: 01-03-2001
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 3:28pm
It should be before tax, IMO