Okay to miss school for fun stuff?

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Okay to miss school for fun stuff?
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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 2:52pm

Moms cited visiting family members, vacations, special sibling events, concerts, and even “mental health days” as good reasons to take kids out of school. 

Alyssa Chirco, a mother of one who lives outside St. Louis, agrees that parents, not school administrators, know best. “I reserve the right to check my child out of school at any time, for any reason.” 

What is the harm in missing a day here or there? Teachers and administrators talk about lost learning time, but the financial reasons are just as relevant. Most schools are funded using a formula that incorporates the average daily attendance. Absences mean fewer dollars allocated.

http://www.today.com/moms/parents-split-over-whether-its-ok-let-kids-miss-school-1B8186531

What do you think?  Is it okay for students to miss class for fun things? Have you let your children do it before?

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 9:18pm
I always considered school one tool we used in educating our kids, but it was part of the total picture, not the whole thing. I don't see how it's any more frustrating for a teacher when a child is absent for an illness or a funeral than for another opportunity.
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Sun, 02-03-2013 - 2:41pm

Those are my thoughts too, Mom_I. Also frustrating are kids that walk in late for no legitimate reason, What if teachers only had themselves and their own schedules to worry about...

 

 

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Registered: 04-16-2009
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 12:44pm

Nope.

When my kids were small, I remember how frustrated the teachers would get when parents would pull their kids from school for "fun" days. The teachers would have spent a great deal of effort planning these lessons, group projects, tests etc..And to have kids not show up and then come back behind the class added to their work load, plus the additional time spent to correct any work the kids may have done while away. 9 times out of 10, the kid had done nothing while away.

I wonder what parents would say if their kids' teachers would take mental health days or holidays during the school year.

My kids were brought up to view school as their jobs. My kids were only pulled from school when they were sick, for doctor's and dentist appointments, for family funerals, for conservatory music exams and educational or sports events arranged by the school (sport compeitions, public speaking and music competitions...). Our family was on the same page; family get togethers were planned when all the kids were out of school.

Since the kids were within walking distance of their school (as most of their classmates were), they showed up on the rare "snow day". Here, it has to be catastrophic for schools to close. schools.

Kids get enough time off in the school year here-2 months in the summer, March Break, teacher's professional development days, Christmas & Easter breaks.

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 7:27am

Depending on the child, a day here or there probably isn't a huge deal. However, I don't think parents should be planning annual family vacations during school time because it's cheaper or more conventient. 

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Sat, 02-02-2013 - 8:07pm

It's okay for elementary school-aged children for vacation at an "off," less busy time of the school year.  We still haven't done that.  But not in the upper grades ~ too much to catch up on and it would set a bad tone.  I don't want my children thinking fun days are possible or more important than school.  Their only job is school.  They've got summer vacation.  I don't want them in that habit.  It's hard to un-do.

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Sat, 02-02-2013 - 8:25am
I took my kids out for a few days here and there in elementary school. Less so as they got older and were on pretty rigorous classes. The stress of missing out/catching up began to outweigh the benefit of the trip or whatever at some point. Nowadays I only have one left in school, and he has missed 1.5 days this year for "fun stuff." That will probably be it.
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Fri, 02-01-2013 - 11:59pm

In my opinion, an occasional enriching social experience trumps your average school day.

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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 7:07pm

We've come close to doing this, We live away from family and have thought about extending Christmas/Easter breaks for longer visits with family but haven't done it.  We just takes breaks when natural school breaks are.

Our school actually has a new policy about absences, All absences are considered unexcused or illegal unless there is a written note so gone are the days of calling my kid in sick if s/he's not going to be at school.  My middle school kid was actually sick the other day and I didn't even call it in, I just sent a note to school with her when she returned on Wednesday.  I think it's a tricky policy but I guess if there's a habitual problem they address it. 

 

 

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Registered: 08-08-2012
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 4:53pm

I think it is ok especially for family time. The way to keep them up on their work and the school getting their funding is to take them out on independent study. The teachers gather the school work for the time they will be gone, and you as the parent make sure they do the work and exercise while the are away.

We have done this in the past and it has worked out well for us, and the school.

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