Parents have 2 babies die while co-sleeping

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Parents have 2 babies die while co-sleeping
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 1:04am

There are warnings about not having your infant in your bed (co-sleeping). Too many babies have died this way. The parents in this story had a baby die, got pregnant and put their 2nd child in their bed, only to have him die as well. Should they be charged with a crime? Should any parents that have a child die in this manner be charged?

http://www.insideedition.com/news/8242/inside-edition-speaks-to-parents-about-dangers-of-co-sleeping.aspx

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Sat, 08-11-2012 - 3:56pm

news stories talk about "another baby dying while cosleeping" ....This is akin to suggesting that because some parents drive drunk with their infants in their cars, unstrapped into car seats, and because some of these babies die in car accidents that nobody can drive with babies in their cars because obviously car transportation for infants is fatal. You see the point.

http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/biological.html

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Registered: 08-22-2009

 Wow.  I never knew that.

  My kids slept in their own bedrooms from the day they came home from the hospital. 

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Sat, 08-11-2012 - 4:18pm

That's why the whole "don't co-sleep" meme is so ridiculous, it does not teach people what they need to know.

Sadly. the "don't co-sleep" meme is designed to sell cribs.

 

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 08-11-2012 - 5:23pm
There are crib accidents every year. I remember when my son was small a mother I barely knew lost her Baby, and I think he was about four or five months old, when the child somehow managed to pull the bottom sheet off the Matthew and he became entangled in it. Those things are uncommon, but so are co-sleeping deaths.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 08-11-2012 - 5:29pm
There is a possibility that either or both of these babies died of SIDS rather than being suffocated in the parental bed. Or that the parents killed the children. I supposed an autopsy will be in order.
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 10:50pm

Good research sharing nisupulla. :catvery-happy: And yes, I understand your point. Because it happens to a small percentage it doesn't mean it will frequently or always happen. My understanding is that anytime you have a new baby sleep on a very soft surface (mattress, for example), you're increasing the odds of SIDS. And if you're a sleeper that sleeps very soundly and/or rolls around, thrashes, etc in bed, then you have a higher risk of rolling onto your baby and suffocating him/her.

The original question I wondered about was whether these parents should have known not to do this again? If you'd had one baby die sleeping in your bed, would you do it again with the next baby? And does doing it again mean the parents should be charged with a crime? I don't have the answers. I just saw the story and wondered. I can't imagine their grief from having two infants die. Is that punishment enough?

I live about 30 miles from where, a number of years back, a mom forgot her baby was in the back seat of her vehicle and left her (or him? can't remember) there all day. After work she drove to the sitter's, only to realize what she'd done. She was charged with a crime (I don't remember what) and there was a trial. She was found not guilty. She has to live every day of her life remembering what one day of forgetting cost her.

So is it enough for these parents, especially when it's not clear what killed their 2 infants, to have to live wondering if something they did caused their babies to die? Or did they commit a crime.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 7:40am

I do not believe that co-sleeping is on trial here. This mom had a substance problem and poor judgment. She is accused of placing the baby in imminent harm.

Since elevated levels of hydrocodone and Xanax were found in her blood, and several jars of (legally prescribed) pills were found on her nightstand, Vanessa Clark faces mandatory drug testing while she waits at home for sentencing.

The court is compiling a pre-sentencing report, and there is a lot of grist for that mill in Angelina County records. In addition to several theft and drug convictions, Clark was convicted of aggravated assault and sentenced to four years in prison back in 2000, though she was released through shock probation after serving less than a year. She hasn't kept her nose entirely clean since then, but the frequency and magnitude of the arrests on her rap sheet have both dwindled. Since getting out of prison, she's only piled up a couple of hot check busts and a shoplifting case.

http://blogs.houstonpress.com/hairballs/2012/04/vanessa_clark_second_sids_deat.php

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Registered: 05-03-2011
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 11:31am
Actually, the policy statement said same room sleeping, but not in the same bed.
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Registered: 07-11-2006
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 12:50pm

That's true. In the same room in a separate bed is ideal, but in the same room in a prepared bed is safer than in a crib in a separate room.

The other thing to remember about media reports on co-sleeping is that if a parent brings a sick child into the unprepared bed or a chair or couch, even if it isthe child's usual sleeping space is a crib, they label it "co-sleeping".

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Tue, 08-14-2012 - 10:47pm

They've always said to have infants sleep on firm surfaces. In very soft beds if a baby is on her tummy, most babies don't have the strength within the first few months to lift their head if they need air. And sometimes when a baby is in bed with her parents, the parents have actually rolled over on the baby, or the pillows or blankets have accidentally been up against the baby and smothered her. And sometimes it's SIDS and no one knows why it happened. It's tragic no matter how it happens.