Public Shaming on Social Media

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Public Shaming on Social Media
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 8:05am

An alleged cheater was publicly shamed Wednesday, and now his photo has gone viral.

"If this is your husband, I have endured a 2 hour train ride from Philadelphia listening to this loser and his friends brag about their multiple affairs and how their wives are too stupid to catch on. Oh please repost..." a Facebook user wrote on Wednesday.

And boy, did people repost. At the time of publication, the photo had been shared more than 86,000 times -- and counting. Check it out below.

How do you feel about public shaming on social media?

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 10:00am

I saw that picture yesterday - and wondered if the story was even true? People make up stores and post all the time on Facebook.

I would not repost such a story, even if I knew it was true. I am not interested in destroying someone's life. Imagine the humilation of the family - with everyone knowing your dirty laundry?

It is malicious gossip and slander at it's finest!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2008
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 10:34am

I think it serves the jerk right. Maybe it will teach him not to brag because I seriously doubt it will stop his cheating. It's a shame his wife would have to find out this way.


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Registered: 08-13-2007
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 10:51am
I'm torn to be honest. I had a friend post it on her FB page and my instant reaction was "good for her!". However, I cringe when I see FB shaming of teens/kids. I really don't like public punishments. If we shouldn't do it to children, we probably shouldn't be doing it to adults either. It just doesn't send a good message.


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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 11:44am

I think anyone who has ever had to sit next to a boorish windbag on public transportation understands this woman's impulse to post what she did, and I can't say the jerk didn't deserve it, but I still don't think it's right to make trouble for other people.

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Registered: 09-01-2002
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 1:57pm

The woman who posted this video should get a life.  Some people are so desperate to be famous.  My advice to her is to stop hanging out in the bar car and join AA.  In lieu of that, she should get a good book, an MP3 player and learn to mind her own business.  This kind of thing goes on during much shorter train rides and the intention of the speaker is generally to let loose some fictional daydreams and hot air.  Look at the guy.  I can only imagine the squeamish looks on this uptight woman which encouraged this neanderthal to continue his soliliquy, most likely for her benefit.  And she knows it.  She sat there for 2 long hours?  It's like entrapment!

Can ya tell ~ I think public shaming is completely one-sided and cowardly.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 06-14-2013 - 7:54am

I agree with thardy that it's cowardly, I think the aim is for one prize called attention. I have a single friend on facebook that rips her ex up all the time on that site, They have a boy together and he has access to her posts, I often wonder what that all looks like to him. He's 9 or 10. She should know better as should any adult who has any decency.