Student Wins Stalking Order Against Parents

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Fri, 12-28-2012 - 2:47pm

A 21-year-old theatre student has obtained a civil stalking restraining order against her parents after convincing a judge that they attempt to control all aspects of her daily life.

Aubrey Ireland is a gifted theatre major at the College-Conservatory of Music at the University of Cincinnati, often winning major roles in her school's musicals. Her latest win wasn't at her prestigious music conservatory, but in court after she filed a civil stalking order against her parents. Earlier this month, Common Pleas Court Judge Jody Luebbers ruled in her favor, ordering that her parents must stay at least 500 feet from their only child until September 2013.

"They basically thought that they were paying for my college tuition and living expenses that they could tell me what to do who to hang out with ... basically control all of my daily life," Ireland told ABC News.

College Student Wins Stalking Order Against Parents

This is just an odd story! Where do you think parents should draw the line when it comes to monitoring their children that are away at college (especially when they are footing the bill)?

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Sat, 01-05-2013 - 8:30pm
indignance - not a word in modern domain. I know the meaning of words, including those greater than two syllables. Your post was incoherent. Why wouldn't you originally say "that the young woman in question is "angry" at her parents for not respecting her "independence" while, at the same time, not being "independent" by expecting them to "help and support her".? HTH
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Sun, 01-06-2013 - 6:10pm

I think that instead of going to court, if this young woman really wanted to be independent, she should have said "Mom & Dad, I'm an adult & I want to live my own life, so I'm not going to take your money for school tuition--therefore you have no right to tell me what to do."  I also think the parents are nutty.  Where I live, installing monitoring software on a phone or computer of an adult is illegal--it doesn't matter if it's your child.  And if you are so untrusting or what your child is going to do in college, then you shouldn't be paying to send them away to college anyway.  My DD went away to college and I couldn't imagine having her report in to me every night if she was in her room or what she was doing.  I think that the conditions that normal parents would put on their child would be that if they are paying for college, they want the child to get decent grades, not party too much and things like that.

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Registered: 04-16-2009
Mon, 01-07-2013 - 12:14pm

Yea, I agree music..

These parents have gone overboard. When we help our kids with their educational expenses,we are not buying our kids. They still have a right to estalblish a life emotionally independant of us.

It is strange but if a man was controlling his wife like this (cameras monitoring her when he was not home, contacting her employee etc), everyone would be up in arms.

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Registered: 10-17-2012
Mon, 01-07-2013 - 11:39pm

"Indignance" - a word in the modern domain, not only because I chose to use it, and used it properly, but also because it's defined and used, again properly, all over the internet.  But do you really want to be editing and rewriting other people's perfectly coherent posts simply because they used a word unfamiliar to you or because you think you're a better judge of wording?  Sounds a bit arrogant to me.

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Wed, 01-09-2013 - 10:45pm
Indignance is not common usage. And none other than iVillage flags it as a misspelling. (Yeah, not the most authoritative of sources, but it is a source that represents your target audience.) Perfectly coherent? Not as I read it. Feel free to ignore my editorial comments.
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Sat, 01-12-2013 - 9:27pm

Personally, I dont' feel my use of language should be limited to the iVillage lexicon or to the linguistic understanding of the lowest common denominator...but for those who diagree, I'll be on the lookout for the bonfires consuming the collective works of Shakespear, Twain, Dickens and Tolkien. ; )

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