Student Wins Stalking Order Against Parents

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Student Wins Stalking Order Against Parents
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 2:47pm

A 21-year-old theatre student has obtained a civil stalking restraining order against her parents after convincing a judge that they attempt to control all aspects of her daily life.

Aubrey Ireland is a gifted theatre major at the College-Conservatory of Music at the University of Cincinnati, often winning major roles in her school's musicals. Her latest win wasn't at her prestigious music conservatory, but in court after she filed a civil stalking order against her parents. Earlier this month, Common Pleas Court Judge Jody Luebbers ruled in her favor, ordering that her parents must stay at least 500 feet from their only child until September 2013.

"They basically thought that they were paying for my college tuition and living expenses that they could tell me what to do who to hang out with ... basically control all of my daily life," Ireland told ABC News.

College Student Wins Stalking Order Against Parents

This is just an odd story! Where do you think parents should draw the line when it comes to monitoring their children that are away at college (especially when they are footing the bill)?

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Tue, 01-01-2013 - 7:45pm

  These parents went way overboard in the parerting of an adult child.

  The goal of raising children is to raise independent adults.  The perk of that is not having to be in their life 24/7. To trust that they can make their own decisions. 

  A parent has a choice of paying or not paying for expenses of an adult child but that choosing to do so does not give one complete control of the child.

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<indignance of those who live under the auspices of others but rail about their independence.>

What's with the word salad? What does indignance mean? and how can it live under the auspices of others but rail about their independence?

I think that any parent can say I'm paying based on certain parameters, and kid can agree or disagree to fulfill them or not, no civil suit necessary.

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Sun, 12-30-2012 - 5:59pm

I wonder if little Aubrey would also like her parents money to be kept at least 500 feet away at all times?  Gotta love the indignance of those who live under the auspices of others but rail about their independence.  Personally, I'd cut her off and then see how long that restraining order remains in effect. ; )

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Sun, 12-30-2012 - 9:19am
Very weird story. Is there any proof one way or the other or is it just she said/they said. When a parent calls their child a spoiled brat, red flags pop up in my brain. If you are accusing your child of being a brat, you need to look in the mirror. I hope that when my DDs are in college, I can truly trust them and the parenting I've done so far. If one of them has a mental illness though, that's a different story. Mental illnesses are pretty debilitating (undiagnosed). I'm not sure a college student would be able to excel if she had one (as her parents claim). Kind of doubt that's the case here.
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Sun, 12-30-2012 - 6:46am
Oh, the evils of paying for your child's college education, LOL! I can't imagine, OTOH I can see where paying for you to go to school meant I am going to attach all the conditions I want on you too... UC's college conservatory of music is a well known one but lately Cincinnati has been getting some really stupid publicity!



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Sat, 12-29-2012 - 10:10am

Her mother may be a bit over-protective, but I hope she's not paying for her schooling and living expenses anymore, since her daughter has made it perfectly clear that she doesn't need her parents anymore.