Technology Hurting Parenting?

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Technology Hurting Parenting?
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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 10:58am

Model and mom Peaches Geldof was out walking her 5-month-old son in a stroller, talking on her cell phone, when the stroller hit a bump -- then took a tumble. A photographer captured the whole debacle. Luckily, baby was just fine. But it's something to give pause to every mom who has ever talked or texted on a phone while parenting (so, every mom).

Technology -parenting fail: Has it happened to you?

Do you think that we, as parents, are too distracted by technology these days?  Is technology hurting our parenting?

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Registered: 08-27-2001
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 5:14pm
I hit a bump and my infant son tumbled out of his stroller too. No cell phone involved. Accidents happen.
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 11:05pm

Yes, accidents happen, and this most likely wouldn't have drawn anyone's attention if she hadn't had her cell phone in hand the whole time.  However, I think we, as a *society,* are too distracted by technology.  It's not unusual to see a couple out to eat and both of them are glued to their phones the whole time they're waiting for their food, never looking at each other, much less speaking.  A few weeks ago such a couple had a 3 or 4 year old child across the booth from them, begging for mommy and daddy's attention while the parents couldn't be bothered to put the darned phones down.

Some groups of young people seem to have no conversational skills - they text rather than talk, and they have no idea how tone of voice can be super off-putting when they actually talk to people.  Some think it's perfectly acceptable to interrupt a conversation with the person in front of them to answer the buzzing device in their pocket.  

What in the world did we do before cell phones?  I think relationships in general suffer when people are too attached to the devices in their pockets.

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 6:47am

Possibly the fuss is caused by the fact she didn't put the phone down once the baby fell out of the stroller. Yes, accidents happen, but I would think a person would stop what they were doing, put the phone down and tend to the child.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 8:14am

  There is no way if knowing if minus the phones the couple would have talked or if the parents would have given their child any attention.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 10:05am

Very true, we don't know re: those specific instances.  But overall, in general, I think people are too connected to their technology and too disconnected from other humans.

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Registered: 08-27-2001
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 7:35pm
I agree that technology interferes with relationships all too frequently. I also think it is sometimes scapegoated when human beings are distracted or disengaged. There have always been neglectful disengaged people. As
I said, I agree that it certainly is a distraction in many cases.
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Registered: 12-17-2003
Fri, 09-14-2012 - 4:39pm

I saw this and I think it was totally taken out of context, She might have hung up right after the picture was taken and I don't think the cell phone is at fault for the accident......

The second picture shows she's cradling the phone while picking up the baby. I don't think one should be judged for anything like this. Things happen and happen to all of us, but I do think it's a bit of an eye opener how distracting cell phones can be, as I suppose many things are. Anyway, I think more attention was drawn to this because she didn't put down the phone. Again ... not judging her.

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Fri, 09-14-2012 - 8:08pm

I don't agree this photo op is some eye opener, There have been plenty of incidents before this that raise awareness to cell phone use and safety, campaigns about texting and driving, etc

Really? I guess I haven't seen any campaigns or awareness in the area of pushing a baby stroller while talking on a cell phone. I don't think most people would expect to hit something on a sidewalk, talking on a cell or phone or not, that would tip a baby stroller.

Some cities and towns have already cracked down about all that too

Cracked down on walking and talking on a phone at the same time, while pushing a baby carriage? I'm serious, I don't think most people give it much thought or consider it a safety hazard. Just like I see people going for a walk while talking on their phones. I don't think most people give it much thought that they might step on a large rock or into a small pot hole.

Sorry, I just don't see any campaigns concerning the safety of walking and talking on a cell phone. So, sure, I think it's an eye opener for many people. Whether that is the intent of photographer? I didn't comment on that so it's unclear what I said, that you disagree with. But, yeah, they are probably trying to portray her as a bad mother, but again, this is due to the fact she didn't put the phone down ... you said no one knows, but we do know, because they photographed cradling the phone while picking up the infant. That is what I commented on. Ya know, you said no one knows, but we do know.

So, no, I don't think it shows her as a bad mother but, I do think it's odd she continued to cradle the phone while picking up her infant ... again, this does not make her a bad mother, but I would think one would put their phone down. And,possibly be an "eye opener" for those who hadn't considered walking and talking as a safety issue.

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Registered: 08-27-2001
Sat, 09-15-2012 - 5:18pm

This is a town near me, right across the Hudson River from NYC:

http://www.newjerseynewsroom.com/state/fort-lee-nj-texting-law-hefty-jaywalking-fine-for-the-distracted

Not specifically to outlaw walking with a cell phone, but all statements I've heard about it made it sounded like that who would be mainly targeted.  A bit much, I think.

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Sun, 09-16-2012 - 10:55am

Wow, that's interesting. I can almost understand not texting and walking, especially while pushing a baby carriage. I had never heard of this, thank you for sharing.

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