Ticket Parents of Chronic Bullies?

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Ticket Parents of Chronic Bullies?
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Wed, 06-05-2013 - 8:02am

Monona, a suburb of Madison, Wis., recently adopted an ordinance that allows police to cite the parents of chronic bullies. If they’re notified in writing that their child is bullying, and the bad behavior happens again within 90 days, the parents can be fined $114 in municipal court.

“There’s a lot of discretion here. If we go to someone’s house and the parents are just at wit’s end, they don’t know what to do, they’ve tried everything, it’s just not working – we’re not going to write those people tickets. That’s not right, they’re actually trying to fix the problem,” Walter Ostrenga, the town’s chief of police, told TODAY Moms.

“It’s the ones where you go knocking on the door and they say, ‘Hey, my kid’s perfect, you have no reason to come here,’ and slam the door in your face and they’re totally uncooperative. Those are the ones we’re trying to make an impact on.”

http://www.today.com/moms/community-will-ticket-parents-chronic-bullies-6C10172548

What do you think about ticketing the parents of chronic bullies? Do you think it will help put an end to some bullying?

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Wed, 06-05-2013 - 8:39am

I think it is a completely stupid solution that only empowers bullies more. In this day and age where kids find it cool to be "bad", this only encourages worse behavior.  Invest the time and money into teaching children to stand up to bullies instead of teaching children to whine,cower, hide and hope that someone else solves their problems.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 06-05-2013 - 3:21pm

I don't think it would work - bullies are often bullied at home. So if their parents received a fine, the child might pay for it physically and then retailate on another child in response.

Much as it's worthwhile to teach children to stand up against bullies, perhaps it would be better to get these bullies help. Many of them are not just being mean for the sake of being mean - but because of how they are treated. And for those that is not caused by home environment, getting help would help their family as well.

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Registered: 06-29-2011
Wed, 06-05-2013 - 3:40pm
I like that they are going to use it at their discretion, but not sure it would solve any problems. Usually the parents are at the root of the problem, and are probably bullies themselves. I think parenting classes might be a better solution, or that they have to get family counseling.
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Fri, 06-07-2013 - 9:17am

I like the idea. I'm in the NYC Metro area and you see a lot of the "not my kid" mentality. Everyone thinks they are entitled to everything. The parents are usually at the root of the problem, and it's not because they are abusing the kids themselves, it's because they treat their kids like gods/goddesses. Complete and utter spoiled brats. Why would they treat peers nicely when they get away with murder at home? It's a HUGE, HUGE, problem here. Just look at the recent issue brought to light of parents hiring disabled persons so their kids can get on rides faster at Disney World. 

I like the discretion too. Because it is a gray area. In some instances, it could be that the kid is being abused at home. But this would allow them to check on them as well. It's a win-win.

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Fri, 06-07-2013 - 9:47am

I like it.  If you hit parents in the pocketbook/wallet, then change can happen.  Bullying is a real problem.  In many places it's getting worse, not improving.  Verbal admonitions and educating students may not be enough.  Charging parents with a nominal fine would then be a last resort and most likely effective. 

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Fri, 06-07-2013 - 10:18am

“I think parents should be held accountable for their child’s actions, but I also think that in doing so, they need some education and resources about how they can help their child,” Hertzog told TODAY Moms.

http://www.today.com/moms/community-will-ticket-parents-chronic-bullies-6C10172548

 

I think children need to be held accountable for their actions. Assuming the bullying is occuring at school, the child should be suspended. This would also gets the parents attention. The parent should be made aware of local resources as well. If the parent then doesn't comply, then sure, fine them