On the Verge of Exhaustion

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Registered: 07-05-2005
On the Verge of Exhaustion
Fri, 07-26-2013 - 8:47am

A recent CDC study found that 16 percent of women ages 18 to 44 reported feeling “very tired,” “exhausted,” or otherwise worn out most days, compared with 9 percent of men in the same age range. Is it because women are taking on more than their share? Or because they have difficulty saying no?

The answer, probably, is both.

Woman on the Verge of Exhaustion- http://www.thedailybeast.com/witw/articles/2013/07/23/driven-to-exhaustion-how-women-s-collective-fatigue-is-holding-them-back.html

Can you relate to this?  Are women being held back by our constant exhaustion trying to get it all done?

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Registered: 01-16-2013
Mon, 07-29-2013 - 1:15pm

For me, it's definitely that I am taking on more of the "fair share". I work just as many hours at DH does but yet the majority of the childcare still falls on me. Frown

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Registered: 04-16-2009
Fri, 07-26-2013 - 4:18pm

How about the other 84%?  16 % versus 9% is not significant enough to comment on.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 07-26-2013 - 1:53pm

I think its as much society's expectations of women doing it all.  We not only put those expectations on ourself, but so does society, as the article says, schools want us all in for volunteering as much as possible, being there in the evenings to help with homework, the endless array of activities kids "need" to be involved in, etc.  I went through this for several years until I finally crumpled over in anxiety and exhausted and realized it was enough, I had to find more balance.  I don't take work home with me, when my "work day" is over at 4:30, I mentally clock out of work, period.  I don't worry about  a social life, as long as my husband and I have quality time to spend together here and there, I am now okay with that, I can have lunch with co-workers or a once a month drink with a girlfriend.  I finally realize how much "me time" needs to be scheduled in also, whethers its purposely scheduing the kids into a class at the Y so I can work out, or getting up just a wee bit early adn going for a jog on a saturday morning befor they  get up.  I still have a long way to go, but someone said recently "you can have it all, but no necessarily all at the same time".  Your life will go in peaks and valleys, you have to adjust yourself and your expectations along with it.