The "What's Your Excuse" Mom

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The "What's Your Excuse" Mom
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Fri, 10-18-2013 - 9:59am

First rule about talking about the baby weight? Don't talk about the baby weight. A rule that mom of three and fitness enthusiast Maria Kang learned the hard way after a Facebook photo she'd posted of herself last year looking incredibly fit in a workout bra (holy abs) and teeny shorts posing with her boys went viral. The issue? Her caption, "What's Your Excuse?"

Much of the feedback she's received on Facebook has been positive.

"Girl you look good! You be proud having 3 kids and staying fit!" 

"You look beautiful good for you."

However, other commenters were angered by it, questioned if she had a nanny, a job or was a personal trainer


The Controversial "What's Your Excuse?" Mom: Love Her or Hate Her?

 www.ivillage.com/mom-maria-kang-posts-controversial-fitness-photo/6-a-549920

What's your take on this little controversy?  Do you like her message?  Think she's sending a bad one?

 

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Registered: 09-01-2002
Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:28am

That woman needs a life or husband who pays her some attention!  I know from personal experience what it's like to go to the gym when your child is still a baby.  Kang didn't have a full-time nanny, so any part-time othercare ends up being haphazard.  With rare exception, part-timers are honestly underpaid and are generally not too happy with that kind of job.  They are always looking for better jobs, there's a high-turnover.  Unless Kang is incredibly unfeeling, lol, it is sooooo hard to do a meaningful workout when you know your baby is in part-time othercare.

Perhaps she put her little cherubs in the gym daycare?  *My experience* no matter how expensive and wonderful the gym, it is beyond frightening to leave a child under the age of one (even age 2, lol) in a gym daycare.  "Babysitters" are always poorly paid, bored out of their minds and certainly have a high turn-over rate.   Kang had to have many days when she left a very unhappy baby under the age of one in the daycare.   Under those conditions, it is very, very hard for even the coldest mom to do an aerobic workout and weights. More power to her, hopefully her children have poor memory capabilities!  But I couldn't have done the whole dump and run just for some aerobics and weight training.  I waited until they were old enough. 

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Mon, 10-21-2013 - 10:50am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p>That woman needs a life or husband who pays her some attention!  I know from personal experience what it's like to go to the gym when your child is still a baby.  Kang didn't have a full-time nanny, so any part-time othercare ends up being haphazard.  With rare exception, part-timers are honestly underpaid and are generally not too happy with that kind of job.  They are always looking for better jobs, there's a high-turnover.  Unless Kang is incredibly unfeeling, lol, it is sooooo hard to do a meaningful workout when you know your baby is in part-time othercare.</p><p>Perhaps she put her little cherubs in the gym daycare?  *My experience* no matter how expensive and wonderful the gym, it is beyond frightening to leave a child under the age of one (even age 2, lol) in a gym daycare.  "Babysitters" are always poorly paid, bored out of their minds and certainly have a high turn-over rate.   Kang had to have many days when she left a very unhappy baby under the age of one in the daycare.   Under those conditions, it is very, very hard for even the coldest mom to do an aerobic workout and weights. More power to her, hopefully her children have poor memory capabilities!  But I couldn't have done the whole dump and run just for some aerobics and weight training.  I waited until they were old enough.  </p>

Why is it that she needed to dump them at the gym daycare?  Is it possible that she gets up early in the morning before the kids do and work out at home, or even goes to the gym while her husband watches the kids for an hour? And why do you think her husband needs to pay more attention to her?  Is it possible that he likes her in shape, their sex life is better because of it, that she has more confidence and energy when she works out and eats better?  I know personally I do.

I personally at this moment am not that motivated, I wish I were some days, mainly for health reasons to eat healthier and work out more than I do.  I think her message is great, with the obesity rate what it is in this country, she is obvoiusly very self motivated and has a great attitude from what I can tell.  There is nothing wrong with that.  If people spent more time worrying about what they ate, taking care of themselves through exercise, stopped watching as much television and sitting on chat boards all the time, things might be a bit different, health care premiums wouldn't be through the roof, health issues, autoimmune issues, etc.  

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 7:41am

I missed this clip but saw pics of her on the net, tv and magazine covers, What's the big deal? Is she some model of perfection other moms/post-baby should aspire to? Yes, I think her message is a bad one, I don't know moms excusing away their weight for time with their babies. 

 


 


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Registered: 10-17-2012
Wed, 10-23-2013 - 1:15am

Who's taking care of the baby while she's spending all those hours and hours working out?