What Aren't You Doing This Year?

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What Aren't You Doing This Year?
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Fri, 12-07-2012 - 2:56pm

It is supposed to be fun, right? Rewarding, reaffirming, heartwarming, spiritual?

And yet the word many of us would use to describe the season is stress.

We burden ourselves with the fantasy of the perfect tree, gift, meal ... We worry about money with which to fund all of the above. We count calories, or don’t, and then that inner voice starts to scold. We remember, as we do every year, that the joys of family often come with complications.

How then to reconcile the purpose of the season with the overlay of angst? Much of the answer is in letting go. You can do that metaphorically -- deciding not to worry about perfect and aim for perfectly fine. And you can do it literally -- jettisoning the pieces that you are doing for the wrong reasons.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/07/stop-stressing-holidays_n_2257542.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

How would you finish this sentence:  This year I won't be_____________?   How do you feel about letting go of that one thing?

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Fri, 12-07-2012 - 2:58pm

This year I won't be sending out Christmas cards.  I just don't have the time and if I'm perfectly honest, I really don't ever look forward to sending them out.  It really feels like just another thing to check off my to-do list so I've decided to skip them altogether this year.

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Sat, 12-08-2012 - 7:02am

 Another perk of being an empty nester is Christmas is a lot less stressful than when the kids were young.

 No need to feel I have to get that "special gift" and hunt all over town to find it. 

  Money much less of an issue. We had some very tight years the first 15 or so years we were married. Not so now.  In part because of increases in income, in part because our day to day expences have gone down. Much cheaper to feed and cloth 2 people than 5. 

  Time is also not much of an issue.  Take out the time commitments of raising children and I have  much more free time.

  I guess my sentence would be "This year I am not stressing"