Marriage and Politics

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Marriage and Politics
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 8:14pm

DH and I are very close as far as our political beliefs go.  Did you marry someone who shares the same political beliefs or are you on separate sides of the debate?

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Registered: 01-11-2013
Mon, 04-08-2013 - 10:09am

I am not married, but my BF and I are very far apart on the political scale.  He's fun to debate with, but his family takes it to the extreme.  I'm probably the only person they know with a differing opinion, so the last time there was a family get together I felt like a huge target.  Not only that, but he didn't seem to recognize just how attacking his family was.  It really gives me pause about even bothering to continue the relationship because the more I think about it the more I know in my heart that this is a fundamental difference that really could destroy us down the line.  So, no, I guess I don't think two people can make it work when they're political beliefs are really far apart. 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 04-08-2013 - 6:56pm
My husband could care less about politics but we share common beliefs about most issues too. I've always wondered what it would be like to live like Mary Matlin and James Carville, Lol - if their differences are more for show or if they really do differ on issues the way they spout about it on tv.



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Registered: 10-17-2012
Fri, 04-12-2013 - 4:21am

Fortunately, my wife and I are of the same mind regarding politics.  But I think, in order for a relationship to work with opposite inclinations, one would have to be "dispassionate" about politics...much like religion...otherwise you're fundamentally at odds with core ideology and, ultimately, it won't work out.