Nebraska law allows abandonment of teens
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Nebraska law allows abandonment of teens
| Tue, 08-26-2008 - 7:39pm |
Nebraska law allows abandonment of teens
‘Safe-havens’ potentially permit parents to drop off kids as old as 19

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Many times there may be a need for this law.
i know i shouldn't be flip but ...
i would like to abandon my teen today. or at least let her know i have a choice.
last week i told her the hospital made a mistake and i was taking her back for my REAL baby.
Bea
I disagree with you, but I'm pretty sure
Oh there were times when I would have been more than happy to do this...
Fortunately, I surpressed those urges, and now the DDs are happily grown and on their own.
Heh, not to be a downer, but I see this law as having real benefits, but what I'd really like to see is a viable "cooling down" program that would allow families with severe behavioral issues to get a break. I know in my house, we have an 11 year old with disabilities and his behavior can be really extreme. He's severely self-abusive (I've had to take him to the emergency room to have him sedated so we could bandage him and myself up (he got me when I was trying to keep him from biting any more skin off his arms and hands). Some weeks he hits a "not sleeping" phase and he'll only sleep about 45 minutes or so in a stretch. I love my son fiercely, but leave a normally in control mom with no sleep for days on end and even I get really punchy. I've even found myself with a pillow in my hands and I put the pillow over his face.. I didn't hold it there for even 1/2 a second before my brain kicked in with "WTH are you doing?!?!?" but that split second of insanity was enough to scare the crap out of me. I no longer am so judgmental when I hear about families who harm or abuse their kids with severe behavioral issues.. it's so emotionally and physically draining and the amount of support that is offered is SO inadequate. We have a program that allows you to take a couple days of scheduled respite, which is good, BUT what I think we need is more of an "emergency, on demand... drop off your kid with no questions asked and then come back and get them when you have control of yourself and the situation" thing because it's hard to predict when things are gonna get out of control. I know that it has the potential to be abused, but I think if even one kid was kept from harm by a program like this, it would be worth it, and it might actually help to make it more viable to keep severely disabled/emotionally disturbed people in their homes with their families, which would be a good thing.
We have a program that allows you to take a couple days of scheduled respite, which is good, BUT what I think we need is more of an "emergency, on demand... drop off your kid with no questions asked and then come back and get them when you have control of yourself and the situation" thing because it's hard to predict when things are gonna get out of control.
I think that is a fantastic idea!
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