Undecided Voters Dilemma

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Registered: 10-27-2004
Undecided Voters Dilemma
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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 4:54pm
Hi, I am the mom of a first grader and a clinical psychologist by profession (while he's in school). I am deeply concerned about this election, and have spent a lot of time thinking about the dilemma that undecided voters face. Although I have decided who I will vote for, I have a great appreciation for those that are caught in the middle. Sadly, our system polarizes voters, forcing them to allign with extreme positions that don't always feel natural. Personally, I'm a centrist, the leans slightly to the left, but would vote for a Republican under the right circumstances.

I've heard lots of people say that they are firmly against abortion, yet they are so troubled by Bush's refusal to acknowledge or apologize for his mistakes in Iraq and his inability to change course, that they are not sure they can vote for him again. For many of these citizens who value life, the killing innocent civilians in Iraq is very disturbing. (Sacramento Bee, Oct. 14, 2004 shows that between 11,000 and 14,000 civilians have lost their lives since the invasion.) And others even acknowledge the reality that our actions in Iraq are flaming the terrorist cause, rather than stamping it out.

Are there any moms on this board that are struggling with this issue-- wondering if it's a conflict of interest to vote Democrat this time around, in spite of their anti-abortion stand, out of this wish to move our country in a different direction?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 5:19pm

>>Are there any moms on this board that are struggling with this issue-- wondering if it's a conflict of interest to vote Democrat this time around, in spite of their anti-abortion stand, out of this wish to move our country in a different direction? <<


Surely I've misread you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 5:34pm
Why would you assume that I am pro-abortion? I am not pro-abortion.

I don't assume that ALL Republicans are stuck on the abortion issue. But, I do know MANY who are. I have family members and friends and patients who struggle with this issue more than any other. In fact, one friend says she would vote for Kerry if it weren't for the issue of abortion and stem cell research. And last night, on another board, a Florida undecided voter was struggling with this issue.

I will not vote for Bush for a number of reasons. I can expound, but won't if you are only interested in pouncing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 5:40pm

I am personally opposed to abortion, making me pro-life ... but I am not hung up on that issue politically simply b/c I don't see abortion EVERY becoming illegal again.

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Registered: 10-27-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 5:42pm
thanks, Sandy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 5:50pm

You're welcome even though I know I didn't really answer your question ... I just didn't fit that

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 5:57pm

Whew!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 6:06pm
I am not afraid of you. But I do find your sarcasm offensive.

I will post more when I have a chance... I do hope to have a dialogue about certain issues that many Americans, both Democrat and Republican, have over-looked. But, I'm about to go play with my son, so it won't be until later. Certainly, your attacking style would never prevent me from speaking my mind. But, you sure do make the process unpleasant. (Is that by design?)

My hope is to talk to other posters who are interested in discussing issues thoughtfully. If this board is too polarized, then I will post for those who are not inclined to voice their opinions, but who are interested in learning as much as possible before they make their decision.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 6:36pm
Hello,

First let me say that I agree with your initial comments and they do present a dilemma for many folks, I agree with you. I have friends who are pro-life, and the situation in Iraq greatly troubles them becuase they are pro-life...ALL LIFE. Myself, I'm pro-life and pro-choice, and I know some people will take issue with that but....It troubles me greatly that we have killed so many people and what troubles me even more is that some folks don't feel it's a problem, just casualties of war. It really makes me very sad. I know death is unavoidable in conflicts such as this and when dealing with Terrorists but I think a country with our inteligence and resources could be alot smarter and avoid such high human loss.

I also agree that you do feel a bit attacked by some folks on this board. I personally am a registered Independent and I try to vote for the person and not the party. I feel some people vote for the party and not the person. I know for a fact that this is true in the area I live.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 7:49pm

>>I am not afraid of you. But I do find your sarcasm offensive.<<


Isn't being offended a choice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2004
Sat, 10-30-2004 - 9:52pm
No, lbmlbmlb, being "offended" is not a choice. Feelings just are. Many people repress feelings (unconsciously push them down) or suppress feelings (consciously push them down), so that can give a person the impression of controlling what s/he feels.

The only thing we can really choose is how we behave. For example, you could decide to bite your tongue when you're tempted to be sarcastic. And I could decide to stop engaging with you if I found your posts too offensive or time consuming.

But for the record, people repressing or suppressing their feelings is what keeps me in business... the world is full of people who have quite a few feelings that are below the surface, causing a variety of psychiatric and medical problems, because they are unwilling or uncomfortable letting the feelings stay on the conscious level. Many cancers have been linked to a propensity to repress anger, for example. And many people who are chronically depressed are stuffing anger or sadness.

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