Close scare yesterday

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Close scare yesterday
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 10:46am

Yesterday morning dh and I were at the hospital with dh's mom. She was in a lot of pain early yesterday morning (7am) and wanted dh to take her to the emergency room. He called the paramedics because she couldn't get into our car. Once there, they took x-rays and a cat scan. I had to leave for work around 10am before the scan was over and all the results of the tests were in. Dh's brother showed up around noon when his relief showed up at his work so dh could eat lunch. The results are that she cracked 2 of her lower vertebrae when she fell Thurs night. She is now back home on pain medication. This was a wake up call for all of us. The time when we will be moving in with her is now upon us. We just now have to convince her of that.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 2:05pm

Hugs, that transition is frequently hard. If you start with the word "temporary", it might help. That is how we got MIL into an assisted living facility with FIL. (FIL needed some surgery and they were incapable of dealing with the aftermath at home). It just sort of continued.

Would she move in with you or would you move in with her?

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:20am

We'd move in with her. The only way we will be able to get her out of her house is feet first. Joy had the suggestion that we approach it from the stand point of her doing us the favor by providing a rent-free home for us. That would certainly work better as an argument over her needing 24-hour care.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 6:25am

That's how we got our neighbor (years ago) to accept a daily person to come in for 4 hours a day. Make the meals, make sure she and DH were dressed and clean, pick up the house.... We told her that the women was about to graduate from her home health aide program and needed to "intern" at someone's house.

Does she live nearby?

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 10:05am

She lives about 2.5 miles from us; a matter of about 5 minute drive. We both live in the same general area of town. In fact, when we were evacuated last Oct., we went to her house. That was temporary and we slept in the living room. But, in a way, while we were glad to go home again, we enjoyed staying with her and she liked the company. So I don't think that it will be an unwelcome change for her. And, if she feels that she is helping us at least as much as we are helping her, she will be more accepting. She does get lonely on the days that we can't see her because of work.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett