Just want to rant / vent

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Just want to rant / vent
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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 4:30pm

Today I am especially not liking being a WOHM and am feeling jealous of all those who can afford to be a SAHM.

2010 Siggy

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 5:14pm
Potty training happens when it happens. IME, boys take longer than girls- frequently six months behind. Both my boys trained just short of their third birthday. We did it over an extra long weekend. Three naked days spent in the house did it.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 7:43pm

Both my boys potty trained long before my

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 8:05pm

Both my boys potty trained well past age 3 - closer to age 3.5 for the older one. IME, boys typically train later than girls - certainly there are exceptions to the rule, but for my family, my friends, my cousins, and for the teachers at daycare, that all holds true. I stressed about potty training a LOT with my older one. My daycare told me to chill out. They had me send 3-4 changes of clothes a day and just bring home messy stuff. They said that when he was ready, he would be ready, and then it would be easy. They were right, and we were way more laid back with son #2. Daycare is like a potty training dream come true --- there's so much positive reinforcement and 'examples' from other kids of the same age. Of all the things that I *might* want to be more involved in by being at home, potty training definitely doesn't rank up there - trust me, once you are past the hurdle, it will be a distant memory and you'll wonder why it caused the angst.

Sure, there are tons of things you might be able to do if you were at home. Of course, who knows if you would do them. Your boys are young - they likely get tons of play and interactions at daycare. They have each other. I promise you 100% that your son is not *missing* gymnastics or anything else. If you really want to give him that experience, then you need to call around and find something like My Gym, etc., that gives you evening options. But you know, I bet your son would be just as thrilled if you made a 'tumbling mat' with some old comforters and a 'balance beam' with a scrap board in your basement and had 'gymnastics' night once a week.

They will get into organized things soon enough. You will end up seeing less of your DH on the weekends than you do during the week - with all the birthday parties, soccer games, swim meets, etc. Don't beat yourself on these things.

Love your boys' names! I have an Adam too.








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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 8:36pm

"My mother said I was potty trained at 15mos, I still find that hard to believe."

I heard one "old timer" say that that meant that the parent was trained, not the child. :)

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Registered: 08-08-2006
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 8:58pm

Or in my case, the nanny was trained and my mother was delusional.


(I've got no mother issues, she grew up rich, ended up fairly poor and laughed through it all)

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 9:02pm

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 8:27am

Lol...my youngest dd had severe potty taining issues and was not trained until she was 5. I sah at the time. It did not make a difference.


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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 8:35am
have you taken up your potty concerns with your dcp?

 

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 11:41am
How do you give them the information and opportunity? Read books? Talk about the potty? Just curious as Samantha is getting to be close to the age where she could possibly start potty-training.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 12:36pm

I admit I pressured oldest dd on potty training - we tried a potty seat, a insert to a regular toilet, read books, sang songs, used pullups, sat her on the potty before/after dinner and stressed over it as my daughter approached 3 (it's a wonder I didn't scar her for life).

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