Is 30 minutes of time with kids a day...

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Is 30 minutes of time with kids a day...
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:22pm
I just have to talk to someone about this one.

Kat

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 5:10pm

Does she see them on the weekends? She must leave pretty early in the morning, if her school aged children are asleep by 8pm. At my house, that would mean leaving at 6AM every morning.

I don't like to make comments about people that are not here to defend themselves.

We all have different circumstances, experiences, personalities, talents, career opportunities...... so we all make different decisions that serve our families best. It's funny, you know, I never ever "hear" someone complaining about a Dad who works long hours and has a sah spouse.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 5:10pm

>>OY!

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 6:04pm

What I got out of the scenario was that perhaps the dad is out of work so the mom is working more to make up for it.

I have heard that dads in SAHM families often don't see their kids much during the week, but that they focus on them during the weekends. Maybe this mom does the same?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 6:08pm

I know many "effective" parents who don't see their children for months at a time. They are sent overseas for several months sometimes a year.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 7:14pm

i don't think there's one "ideal" window of time parents should spend with their kid but 30 minutes is hardly any time at all.


how old are the kids?


depending on the age,30 minutes might be just

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 7:43pm

If the roles were reversed, would it be an issue?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 7:45pm

Why gender specific?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 8:32pm
Well, it *is* a debate board....

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 9:18pm

While I doubt that anyone would ever consider 30 minutes a day ideal, the truth is you really can't know how effective a parent she is.

I worked for some years with a man who worked very long hours, but every day his kids would call him as soon as they got home from school. He carved out this time to talk to them -- really talk to them -- about their days and their lives. I'd hear him talking to his DD about friends, boys, school, everything. And he devoted his weekends to spending good time with them doing the things that were important to them. They are now young adults, very successful, and still have a very close relationship with their father. To say that he wasn't an effective parent because he didn't get home by 6:00 every day is ridiculous.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 9:26pm
*I* can't be an effective mom on 30min a day on a regular basis.

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