Is 30 minutes of time with kids a day...

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Is 30 minutes of time with kids a day...
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:22pm
I just have to talk to someone about this one.

Kat

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Registered: 03-24-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 10:06pm
Honestly, I think it's sad when any parent doesn't have much time with their children.
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:13pm

My sentiments exactly.

Kat

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:16pm
Her kids are in elementary school.

Kat

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:18pm

I don't know what the family's emotional needs are, and maybe somehow she makes it work on thirty minutes a day, but I don't consider it ideal for a parent to be absent that much (whether it's mom OR dad). I'm also confused as to why she would rather be at a club or PTA meeting instead of with her family given how little time they already have together. Only she would know.

My PERSONAL opinion is that no, 30 minutes a day is not conducive to a strong parent-child relationship.

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:19pm
Actually, the dad purposefully cut back his work hours because his wife works so much.

Kat

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:21pm
I think she's avoiding time with her kids, for whatever reason.

Kat

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:24pm

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All I can think is that she's constantly in "resume" mode. If it can be put on a resume, it counts. If it can't, it doesn't count. Unofficial time with family (trips to the park, etc) can't be bullet points on a CV, so maybe it doesn't feel like "real" parenting time to her.

ETA: It could also be about a sense of structure. To me, the scariest thing about the idea of being a SAHP is the fact that I have a bit of a free-falling feeling as I try to figure out how to structure and spend my time with Joe. I take comfort in the structure of my limited work schedule. It's easier for me to meet objectives set forth by someone else than to attempt to make and follow my own. Maybe she can't handle even the tiniest bit of unstructured time? Maybe she literally doesn't know what to do with herself when she's at home?




Edited 3/30/2009 11:30 pm ET by finally.me




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Registered: 06-20-2006
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:25pm
How about the song, "The Cat's in the Cradle"?

Kat

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:27pm
That could be.

Kat

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:28pm
PLUS...she brags that he made this sacrifice so she could advance in her career.

Kat

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