Is 30 minutes of time with kids a day...

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Is 30 minutes of time with kids a day...
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:22pm
I just have to talk to someone about this one.

Kat

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:31pm

I dunno. Not as much as if a woman is doing it, I agree, but when someone has come and spoken of how the Dad took on 2 fulltime jobs so Mommy could be a SAHM, it's not like that's met with any kind of acclaim, either. I'd far and away rather that both my non-existent husband and I worked, than have me (or him) at home while the other was working 2 jobs to make ends meet. Both the kids and the absent parent lose out.

On the other hand, there *are* a lot of families where the dad works really long hours and nobody really bats as eye, as you say *and* he manages to have good, strong, bonded relationships with his kid, so as egd said, there's no hard fast number where X amount of hours working is okay, but Y amount of hours is bad bad bad. I think it depends a lot on the family in question, the personalities in question, and a bunch of other factors.

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:34pm

Well...maybe she really doesn't know HOW to be an involved connected parent and is just doing the best she can.

It does sound like she's at least TRYING.

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:35pm
Yeah, but in the song Cat's in the Cradle, the father wasn't involved in PTA or Scouts or anything like that, either.

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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:37pm
Good point!

Kat

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 12:21am
Very good point. Yes, she definitely seems like she's trying. It's not like she's out partying. She's still involved with her children - peripherally, but she's involved.
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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 1:30am

Have no opinion about this mom's work schedule. There is not enough information. My dh is rarely home at dinner time and frequently comes home after our son is in bed. He also works weekends. From an outsider's point of view, he could be considered a workaholic. His work day starts around 4 pm. Dylan is picked up at after school care at 5pm. Dh takes Dylan to school and then goes to his mom's house for the morning and early afternoons. He could be gone all day on Saturday and Sunday working.

Chris

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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:41am

>>My sentiments exactly.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:59am

wait! so now we find out that she spends MORE than the 30 min. per day -- by taking on the role of Tiger Scout Leader? You do know that with Tiger Scouts the parents are there to PARTICIPATE with their child, right?

Sounds like you need to add in at least another hour or two per week.

eileen

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 6:30am

If she's his Tiger Scout leader, doesn't that mean that she's spending time with him every time the troop gets together? I don't see how being his troop leader is time away from him, unless he doesn't participate in his own troop.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 6:32am
How is it possible for her to lead scouts with her son not there? Isn't she spending time with him when she leads scouts?

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