I don't think it's an old, tired argument at all. I think it's a very real one. Generally speaking, men are still viewed as breadwinners and women as caretakers of the home and children. Men can work long hours and not see their children much, if at all, during the week, and no one blinks, they are "working so hard to provide for their families," to the point that some have suggested that men should be willing to take on 2 jobs in order to support their families and allow their wives to SAH. They won't ever see their kids, but it's OK, because they're "good providers." I've seen this stance over and over again. But if it's mom? O-M-G, what a neglectful mother damaging her children by her absence. The dad in this case even said, start work as early as you want as long as you are home by dinner. WTH?
To be honest, the more I have read about this mom, the more I am starting to believe that she might be kind of manic and/or depressed. And I hope she gets some help with that.
Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
You don't see a difference between speaking for one's family (and how things work)
I really don't get the double standard.
of course men are viewed as the primary bread winners general.
Sometime kids just complain.
"One last thought, being a workaholic is a real disorder. If this woman truly is a workaholic, then she needs help. She needs some sort of counseling."
" SAH is a lesser and lesser arrangment because there's this need,selfish or not that two working parents,some even playing field is far better than having a mom SAH and dad WOH. hmm,wonder why that is..or does it just resort back to the whole it COSTS MORE TO LIVE nowadays? if so,i don't buy it. it's standards,not COL that are out of whack nowadays."
So no matter what anyone else says, you think there are less sahm's because other families care more about money (that's the selfish part--you said it). And that you live some kind of pauper's life & have such a low standard of living & the rest of us with 2 wohp are out living it up, spending like money is going out of style. Sorry I just don't buy it, with what you have shared and how big your house is & with your dd's riding lessons etc. But you are just scraping by? Um no.