35 hours in school vs. in daycare

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Registered: 04-22-2005
35 hours in school vs. in daycare
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Fri, 02-06-2009 - 2:03pm

I was trying to think why I've been having such a hard time with the idea of going to work full-time in the fall and yet I don't have any problem with my kids going to school for the same amount of time when they are school age. I know that we've asked the question a lot "Why is it okay to put them in school for 35 hours but not in daycare for 35 hours?"

My toddler doesn't understand WHY Mommy is gone. He doesn't appreciate the difference between Mommy going to work and Mommy just disappearing all day. A 5-year old does. I think that until they are old enough to truly understand the purpose and necessity of the separation, those 35 hours are going to be experienced very differently.

Discuss.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 3:37pm

No, a 5 year old doesn't.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 3:40pm
They respond that way when it's not a routine.
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 3:48pm

I think you are mistaking the point here.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 3:49pm
4 years old?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 4:53pm
I am not sure why it is always assumed that mommy being gone will be seen as a great big negative by a toddler/preschooler. My own kid was usually delighted to go to daycare or preschool. In fact, she was usually most unhappy about having to leave at the end of the day.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 4:55pm
That is normal separation anxiety. As long as he is not distraught the whole time that you are gone, it really is not anything to worry about.
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 8:27pm

And that's what we are saying. It's just that most of us had kids where dc at age 2 or school at age 5 had little or no difference to the kid.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 8:31pm

At least 20 years ago when we were homeschooling, there were some states where legally, children didn't have to be in school until age 8. If I'm remembering correctly, AZ was one of them. Here in CA, age 6 is the legal age for school although most kids go to school at age 5 (by Dec 2nd). Kindergarten isn't mandatory; 1st grade is.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 9:03pm
i don't know about where finally.me takes her DS but at the church's preschool my own child attended last year,children can start as young as 18 mos.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-08-2009 - 10:15am

Oh, o.k. The impression I had gotten from these boards was that MDO was a more casual thing. Nice church ladies babysitting whatever kids happened to be dropped off that day, like gym childcare. I wasn't aware that it could be an organized daycare program with set schedules and trained teachers.

Still, though, even in a structured daycare environment, some kids will need more than two mornings a week to feel comfortable in the environment. And some types of daycare environments are better for some children than others. Sometimes you have to look around a bit to find the right fit for your child.

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