5 reasons to stay home


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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 01-28-2012 - 10:11am

Well, it wasn't a "Tra-La-La! Sah is Speshuler Than Any Crappy Job and Women can't Make Real Money Anyway, Who's Raising Your Poor Babies Who Will be Delinquent Teens???"--it was more balanced than I expected.

IN some cases SAH makes more sense for a family.



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Sat, 01-28-2012 - 11:09am

A lot more balanced, I agree.

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Sat, 01-28-2012 - 11:17am


With the lower income blue collar worker the childcare cost becomes more of an issue. I am that blue collar 30-40 hour a week worker with a short commute. If I had to pay for childcare I do not think it would be worth it to me to work because there would be so little net income after expences.

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Sat, 01-28-2012 - 1:12pm

THat makes sense.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 01-28-2012 - 4:43pm
Well, it's a little skewed toward worst-case-working scenarios. For instance, if you have a high stress long hours professional job, you probably are going to be making significantly more than 30K a year. You probably can afford a housekeeper and lawn service to buy yourself some time with the kids and free some time for bonding-type activities.
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Registered: 05-13-2009
Sat, 01-28-2012 - 5:04pm

The language may not be as over the top as some but all the common tropes seem to have been included:

  • * $5 coffee and lunch out
    * Work clothes $100mo
    * less time to cook, meaning more money spent at restaurants.
    * you are pushing at least 50 hours a week
    * Taking care of the house and running errands drains the time spent with children
    * staying at home, a parent has the chance to see all of their child's firsts
    * act as a positive influence during the formative years
  • * How many people do you know who get to the end of their life and wish they had spent more time working and less time with their families? You can't pin a dollar sign on the value of spending time with your children.

And this quote: "According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, regardless of quality, children with a higher quantity of non-parental care exhibited increased behavioral problems" with the link taking us to a page on "The Importance of Fathers in the Healthy Development of Children". I guess the author assumes we'll accept his statement as fact without clicking the link. Sloppy journalism and a waste of my time invested in reading the article. All cliche, little insight.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 4:10am

Yep, or if you have a job, as I did, with unpredictable hours that typically fell at night or on weekends, making childcare difficult and expensive. My spouse was not reliably available during those times either.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 6:59am

Each one of those bullet points this board has argued before, Lol.. And I think they are very legitimate points if the choice is there, I'd even add that if mom choses WOH instead of SAH her threshold for some of those points - stress, quality time, energy, etc. is probably very different than the mom who choses to stay home.



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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 9:37am
And what about this line?

"Let's say you make $30,000 per year. That is $2,500 per month gross, and around $1,500 after taxes, including social security and medicare withholding. "

That also means you are not paying into SS, which effects your retirement income, which also means you can't save as much for your retirement as well.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 9:45am
Yes, but your point that work situations vary is still valid. I'm a nurse and I know tons of nurses who work nights and don't use childcare at all. And other shift workers do the same. As a matter of fact, the longer I'm in the workforce, the fewer people I know who work "normal" 8-5 high stress office type jobs.

Also in this day and age, insurance is very hit and miss. I know lots of couples where one spouse works because the other spouse's job doesn't provide benefits or they are so expensive it is prohibitive. My husband's employer pays for his health insurance, but not family. It would be over $1000 a month for him to cover us. There goes that money saved by not using DC (which of course is moot for us since my kids are older.)

I know others who are self-employed, or work for small mom & pop type manufacturing firms or shops, etc, where minimal benefits are provided.