Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:08pm

...I meant that if I had to I'd move to a crap apartment rather than default, which is no solution at all.


I may be a little dense this evening, but I stil don't get your point.

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Ducky

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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:10pm

...I'd be worried about my kids and other things.


Assuming a decent neighborhood, good schools, and a temporary situation, what exactly would be your concerns?


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Ducky

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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:23pm
Not sure how the apts are in her area or areas around here but I have been to Section 8 apt. housing so if that is what she is talking about, I understand her concerns. My dh and I also lived in 2 apts., both in people's homes though and wouldn't see anything wrong with that.
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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:31pm

I think I see where the disconnect is.


Since we bought our house over 11 years ago, the house is cheaper for us than an apt. would be.


I have never suggested that it would make sense for

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Ducky

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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:35pm

You do realize that there are tons of apt's out there, only a fraction of which are sec 8?


The oposition to apt living has talked about sec 8

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Ducky

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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:37pm
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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:39pm

I agree that there is a lot of middle ground as I have stated that we lived in that "middle ground"

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 12:09am

I guess it depends on how much her mortgage is now if she thinks she would be spending more than that.


No.

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Ducky

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Mon, 12-31-2007 - 4:03am
Well, at the risk of interjecting factual data into your argument, but if she's moving to take a job as an engineer--a job that routinely pays 6 figures at the higher end--what are the actual odds that she'd even qualify for Section 8 housing???? So can we just drop that ridiculous angle and try to limit the matter to reality? Just for fun?

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