Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:29pm
When I talked with the vet about care for the cat, she had no interest at all in keeping it and trying to home it out or keep it in their shelter.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:32pm
Or one might be able to afford an apartment in a good school district more easily than a house in a so-so school district.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:36pm

If 2k for surgery and care of a young pet is *too much*, then you dont have a very good idea of what vet care costs in general, and probably should stick to fish.


I dont disagree that pets should be well cared for and not allowed to suffer, but I think its shameful to put down a young animal for no other reason than not wanting to spend the $ to care for them properly-and getting a necessary surgery DOES fall into the realm of proper care. Now if the cat had some kind of long term issue that was going to run you thousands and thousands over the course of its life, or an illness that would likely result in an early death anyway, you might have a point. But you are talking about a very common issue with housepets-obstructions happen ALL the time. Cats eat string and other stuff they shouldnt. Dogs eat their rubber toys (as mine did). Its not a cheap fix when it happens, but it does happen and the pets usually recover just fine.


Have you even bothered to call around to other vets to see if you can find a less expensive route?

Dj


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Dj

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:38pm

As someone on this board just talked about, many people say they cannot *afford* to spay and neuter. They simply dont want to spend the $ associated with caring for a pet.


If you cant afford to care for a pet, dont own one.

Dj


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Dj

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:43pm

Let's see what I've spent on the cat so far:

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:47pm
I see; the moral standard involved here seems to be the number of thousands you have spent or would be willing to spend on the care of *your* pet; anyone with a different standard simply need not apply.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:49pm
One would think so, but in my state it doesn't seem to be the case.
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Registered: 10-30-2007
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:53pm

My husband and I would not spend 2 grand on our dogs or our cat.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:59pm
I think with pets you have to budget for their routine annual care and as for the rest, set a certain limit.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 3:09pm

Wow.


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