Affording to Stay at Home

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
1968
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

http://beaworkathomemom.blogspot.com/

Working on being...Supermom!

Blythe http://beaworkathomemom.blogspot.com/ Working on being...Supermom!

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:00am
it's not so much the i can afford chirstian school,either....it's the look at what i can afford over what you can afford sort of thing that's the problem.

 

Avatar for 4thekids2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:02am

Bravo, Bravo oh wait for women is it brava?


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:02am

Why would you ignore studies when making decisions?

Avatar for 4thekids2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:02am

"Actually talking to your children and having high standards for them and parenting them seems to be working pretty well for alot of parents."


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:07am

you are right and if i woh we would not be able to live in the area we want and have our kids go to the school we want them to go to.

Avatar for 4thekids2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:07am

In a few years me having an income will very likely matter in order to keep our kids in private school. It's still a preference, private school isn't mandatory and they would likely do well in our crappy public school because they have a good stable home but at

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:09am
I love this post.

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:10am

<>

Um, I think that's been said a few times?

Avatar for 4thekids2001
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:13am

Holy crap have you forgotten that my DH is blue collar, it has nothing to do with "look what I can afford". We could have a "better home in a better neighborhood" if we wanted but keeping them in Christian school is important to us(and honestly I never thought it would be when we started them there).


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:14am

<>

Easy to see why this is a challenge for you. If the dh of a SAHM wants his wife to work, that in no way involves him doing what he wants; it's him trying to get her to do what he wants. The discussion is about family members doing what *they* want, not pushing others around.

Pages