Affording to Stay at Home

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Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:15am

Beautiful detailed examples of why SAH works for you. Each family may be very different.


Just for fun, I thought I'd respond.


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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:16am

....it's the look at what i can afford over what you can afford sort of thing that's the problem


That has nothing to do with WOH or SAH, though.


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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:23am

"....it's the look at what i can afford over what you can afford sort of thing that's the problem"


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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:29am

as my kids get older i am certain things will change and i have no doubt i will woh in the future.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:29am

because my life isn't a study. my life is my life. divorce was the best possible path for me...Liza has a more secure life because of it. coming out was the ABSOLUTE right thing for me to do and I Have a better life because of it. Why would I read a study full of percentages and factors that are meaningless to the very real life that I'm living? no way jose I can make decisions on my own thank you.

and more importantly I OWN them--- I CHOSE this life and I OWN it all -- joys sorrows ups and downs and THAT makes me proud.

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:38am

Thank you... Liza's father is an angry angry soul who treats happiness as something to be suspicious of -- Liza has alot of his dark tendencies -- she wakes up angry every morning - even today a snow day she woke up with that cloud over her. yet she'll tell me that being at daddy's house is not as fun b/c he seems tense all the time -- so today I said to her "liza how do you think it makes mommy feel when you're angry all the time" she said "momma I never thought of that" LOL. So that's become our motto --choose the joy -- b/c I know that together she and I are an unbeatable team but we have to choose the joy and choose the laughter first - then there's nothing we can't do.

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:39am

Yeah well Disney isn't DH's first choice, but I say it's for the kids,lol!


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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:41am
I appreciate the compliment.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:41am

Liza is a lucky girl to have you to balance out what she sees in her dad. He sounds much like my dad,

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:42am

my ex and I took Liza when she was four courtesy of part of his inheritence from his grandparents, but I want to go back with Kelly and when Liza's old enough to not be scared of everything LOL. She'll be nearly ten a y ear from now so I think that's a great time to go and Kelly's gonna pay for the airfare and i"ll pay for our hotel and tickets to the parks. liza and I are such Disney dorks we have books and websites everywhere - I think we're having as much fun planning it as we'll have there!

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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