Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:43am
good for you.

 

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:43am
Thank you. It's tricky b/c I don't want to get into a situatoin where it looks like i"m badmouthing him either b/c at the end of the day he IS a great dad. but I try to give her tools to handle the anger and handle HIS anger ... it's hard but I'm determined this cycle of anger stops with her -- you should see my EX's dad -- he makes my ex look like little mary sunshine!
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:57am

And if she doesn't woh, she may be able to reduce general stress, which is good.


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Ducky

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 10:04am

why is it so hard for you to grasp that a seoncd income does not always change the ses of a family.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 10:05am

I'm not debating this point with you, why did you direct that at me?


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Ducky

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 11:05am

I agree with you there.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 5:55pm

Because of previous posts and this one.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 6:09pm

None of our lives are studies but knowing what the studies look at and what they found and comparing ourselves to the norm is what allows us to say whether or not things impact us.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 6:11pm

No, what has been articulated is that life is structured differently when mom SAH.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 6:51pm

fine. live your life according to studies and good luck to you. but forgive me if I don't seen any kind of happiness in your posts . Ever. I never see the word laugh. I never see the word smile. I never hear affection for anyone in your posts. I don't hear joy. I don't hear humor. I hear a boat load of bitterness. But yeah you go clinging to those studies to guide you.

I may be divorced. I may be poor. But I'm happy. and LIZA is happy. and her dad is happy. and I love them all. and I love Kelly and I LOVE my life. And as far as I"m concerned that's the only study I need. The study of MY LIFE. Which is being lived the way it was supposed to be

OUT FREAKING LOUD.

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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