Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:01pm

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:06pm

Do you think that telling a three year old that his salary will never be two hundred thousand a year if he works as a professor is anything other than a waste of breath?

I think my version was more along the lines of "they have different kinds of jobs and they have to be at the hospital all day" or something like that.

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:09pm
I don't think anybody ever said that "happiness" should be the sole criterion in deciding whether to WOH or not. We were talking about "choose to" situations. And in a true "choose to" situation, what other criterion would possibly trump "happiness." If I don't have to work to meet financial goals, why would I do it if it didn't make me happy?
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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:12pm
Interviews are often the only way committees can figure out if a student is really likely to accept an offer of admission. No use wasting an offer on a student who comes across really good on paper but who shows up at the interview and is totally uninterested in the school or attending there. Happens more than you think.
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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:25pm

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:27pm

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:28pm
Why not, if you've got a lot of farmers around?
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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 4:37pm

I thought Id also throw in that I also dont think children in a lower SES or in a "crappy" zip code are subject to discrimination of such a type either. As another

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 5:43pm
I was reading a book (Barbara Kingsolver's Animal, Vegetable, Miracle or Michael Pollan's The Omnivore's Dilemma) that was talking about "brain drain" in farming. The "smart" kids moved off the farm to have professional careers. He/she pointed out that that was probably not a good thing.

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Fri, 12-21-2007 - 5:45pm
i totally agree about the farmers, i just have a hard time seeing my oldest who wont swim in the lake because there are fish in there and who freaks at the sight of a bug spending her life on a farm

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