Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 8:10am
You know, I think I'd know more about what I believe than you do.
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Wed, 12-26-2007 - 8:42am
why? you do it all the time --
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Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:01pm

But that is your situation, it does not apply to every household.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:07pm

I know my kids, who are great kids but not really the type who are just naturally "successful", have benefitted hugely from being among kids whose parents make more than we do and who are rocket scientists as opposed to garage mechanics.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:14pm

Unemployed couch potato living at moms.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:20pm
Well I came from a working class family and I am mighty proud of it.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:24pm
No becauase anything below us is ghetto.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:40pm

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:51pm
Um, our area has some beautiful apartments in very safe cities.

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Registered: 07-17-2005
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:59pm

I've tried not to reply to this but to hear that a college CLASS teaches you such nonsense...I just couldn't help but reply.

I'm glad my family does not live their lives banking on acceptance due to how much money they have and/or how much their parents have and especially how much their neighbors have. Life is not about money, happiness is not about money, contentment is not about money...so little IS about money. From what I've seen, the top thing to do with money is to boast about it and my family can happily live without the need to do that.

All of what you are learning from that college class is pure BS...and they have a class to teach you that??? I cannot get over that! It's amazing what kids are being taught these days!

People of ALL SE classes live in EVERY city. Does your college professor not know that???

All this talk about SES baffles me. It took a few posts before I even realized what SES means. I guess if you're not raised to be a snob then it doesn't mean a thing.

In my own neighborhood, which is not a subdivision but instead in an agricultural area, we have people who rent, people who live in trailers and at least two one-million-dollar houses - all on the SAME ROAD. It is a very long road out in the country but to think I could be judged by my neighbor's SES? Oh Please, if that is true then I would suspect those colleges are also teaching that sort of prejudice in other classes and frankly I don't want anyone teaching my child 100 ways to be a snob. The people out here may not be wealthy but they have land and that could mean wealth for their offspring...and I for one am glad that there will be at least a few wealthy people in the world who were not born snobs because that is the kind of folks it takes to create a COLLEGE class that teaches a student that a person's value is dependent upon their financial worth!

Okay, rant over.

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