Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 9:56am
Speaking metaphorically, maybe yes.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:03am

It's been claimed that certain things are being touted as the "be all" of parenting, when that's just not the case.


Where I have gotten the impression that ses is the "be all" of parenting is places like Cyndi saying that her children would *suffer* (again, I don't remember the term) if their family had to live in an average middle class neighborhood.

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Ducky

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:05am
I call it like I see it.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:07am

Once they become auto mechanics, my door of course remains open to them.


That is mighty big of you.


FWIW, our company mechanic made 80k this year.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:08am
Sorry we cramp your style.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:10am

Will

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Ducky

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:16am

Where I have gotten the impression that ses is the "be all" of parenting is places like Cyndi saying that her children would *suffer* (again, I don't remember the term) if their family had to live in an average middle class neighborhood.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:28am
My dad was a bricklayer and contractor. He was good at doing those things, and there have to be people to do them, but bricklaying is really hard work. I don't want my kids to ever have to work that hard.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:30am

I honestly don't want to rehash Cyndi's circumstances.

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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:32am

I agree.

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Ducky

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