Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:35am

I don't want my kids to ever have to work that hard.


May I ask why?

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:45am
Of course I want my children to get an education and be all they can be.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:46am
Because at 60+, I can see what kind of toll working outside with heavy blocks and bricks has done to my dad's body.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:48am
I think the key
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:54am

it was said that the poster would rather her kids hang out with rocket scientist kids than a mechanics kids.


I sort of remember that comment, but I took it differently, I guess.

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Ducky

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:58am

I think the key

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:00am
Exactly.

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Ducky

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:06am
After reading this whole thread, I think the disagreement comes from confusion over why some parents want their kids to grow up around people who are more educated and financially successful. Personally, my parenting choices are made based on the character and personality traits I want to develop in my children. But my geographic location and decisions tied to SES are made based on educational/academic/career development interests. I don't believe that my kids learn character from the neighbors, but I do believe the neighbors can inspire career, educational, financial, and lifestyle goals. If that makes sense.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:09am

Yep.


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Ducky

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Registered: 10-06-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:24am

I agree.

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