Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:20pm
Ducky has mentioned several times on this board that she and her dh have been house hunting.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:20pm
If you were fine with what you did with your home and you said it was a temporary thing like the op, then you wouldn't get so defensive.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:22pm

Small is relative to where you live.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:24pm
"Apartments as ghetto living" - there's the bone of contention.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:25pm
Not unless you really had no alternative, and certainly not because some people might think you're being a snob to want something better.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:26pm

I understand why it would be snobbish to identify a single occupation (auto mechanics) as one you do not want to live near. I do not understand why it would be snobbish to identify a single occupation (rocket scientist) and say

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:27pm
I don't understand why you find it unbelievable that people do not visit places that are near them?
Never said every apt. was too small to raise a family in. The large ones in the city are very expensive and even on LI the rent for a 2 bedroom starts at $1,400 IME of friends who have lived in apts.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:27pm

Plus the tenant cannot trash the home or they can lose their section 8.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:28pm
I can't believe you'd really bring up Andrea Yates in this context, but I guess that's where one goes when one is out of arguments.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:29pm
Exactly. If being a snob is not wanting your family to live near drug dealers, prostitutes, alcoholics and basic low-lifes (even for a temporary amount of time), then I guess I am a snob!!

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