Affording to Stay at Home

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Affording to Stay at Home
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 12:20am

Ever notice that those moms that SAH are usually (although not always) more well off than mothers who WOH? It seems to me, based on what I have seen, that while most women enjoy working their jobs and having a professional life outside of the home, some women prefer to stay home with their kids for a certain amount of time - whether it be 1 year or 10 years - and those women have the option to do so, while other women wouldn't even consider the option because they feel they can't afford it.

Well, it has been my experience that most women who do stay at home have

1) husbands who support the idea

2) Husbands who probably earn enough (or almost enough) to support the family.

3) Enough money to support themselves without working.

**Now I am not talking about people who get help from government agencies, I am speaking about women who do it with no outside help - just seems like most women can't because of financial reasons. So, is being a SAH mom now an "upper class" phenomenon - in general? Of course there are many SAH moms that are middle class, but if they chose to have paying jobs, they'd probably move right back up into that higher income bracket.

Blythe

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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:46pm

Of course I believe you when you say you don't go into the city.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:47pm

So she doesn't care for apartment living, big whoop.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:48pm
Somehow I don't think she was talking about apartments with a bathroom for each of the four bedrooms and a concierge service.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:50pm
I am not interested at all in traveling in the United States either so going to NYC wouldn't be much different.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:50pm
IMO, anecdotes don't tell us much one way or the other about the broader outlines of this particular discussion.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:52pm
Her overall POV wrt financial planning, real estate, etc. leaves much to be desired, it's true.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:52pm
I don't consider it unbelievable that you don't go into the city and take your kids there. I find it sad that they live so close but haven't had a chance to experience all the educational, historical, and cultural opportunities New York City has to offer.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:53pm
I'd say you're marginal at best, but you do have potential!
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:56pm
Hey, I
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:57pm
Did you learn anything to cause you to temper your opinion over the course of the debate? I didn't see any evidence of it. That's why I think it's still an open topic.

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